I dislike that The Big Bang Theory gives the impression it's extremely rare for women to be pop culture nerds. I'm a woman who loves marvel movies and Star Wars and Star Trek and hope to one day find a boyfriend who likes those things too
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All of those things are main stream now though, aren't they? Those are all super popular nowadays, everyone and their grandma are marvel fans it seems like, it's rarer to find someone who ISN'T a Marvel fan. Big bang theory is just out of touch and relying on old stereotypes. But women are just as nerdy/geeky/whatever you want to call it as men I've always found, they're just more hesitant to show it off or geek out about it in public for fear of getting those really creepy gatekeeping dudes coming up and "well akschually unless you can name the tree used in the brand of paper used in the original printing of Deadpool number 42 you're not a real fan". Have seen shit like that happen to women friends of mine in public who were WAY more into comics and more knowledgable about all that than I was unfortunately.
"all men are the same"
nah girl, you're shit and attract shit men
"locker room talk"
Most of my friends and I are pretty traditionally "manly" men. The kinds of guys you turn to if you need to build something, fix something, need to cut down a tree, want to drink beer and smoke cigars, shoot guns (not after drinking the beer,) go fishing (beer is ok for that,) etc.
I have basically no clue what's going on in any of their sex lives. We never really comment on women's appearances, and when we do it's kept to just a very quick observation, "man, she's hot" kind of thing.
Damn near any time some sort of sex talk comes up it's our female friends stoking the fires.
I'm pretty sure my wife and her friends talk more about sex in an afternoon than I have in my whole lifetime.
Maybe it's because we very rarely find ourselves in a locker room, most of aren't exactly the gym or team sports type.
This exactly. Good lord, women talk about sex in EXCRUCIATING detail apparently. My dude friends and I don't even really touch on the subject but I've specifically asked a couple of my close women friends about this and they talk about EVERYTHING. Like, size, shape, positions, times, noises, it was...enlightening. And uncomfortable. This is obviously anecdotal and could just be this one group of friends of mine are super open and horny, but they said it's pretty common.
It was actually a plot point on Friends once. Ross got upset that Rachel told Phoebe about his princess Leia sex fantasy. Ross and Chandler were surprised women talk to each other about sex.
I hear the phrase "locker room talk" and I think of middle school and high school locker rooms, where a bunch of pubescent boys with raging hormones and undeveloped prefrontal cortices try to impress one another or otherwise fit in socially.
Most grow out of this, I think. But then, like you, I don't hang out in locker rooms anymore, as I am not forced to.
Honestly, even when I was in middle and high school (so we're going back around 20 years now) I don't remember a whole lot of that
The main topics of conversation I remember were sports, video games, music, movies, TV, weed if you were a stoner, vacations, parties, and other plans you had and things you'd done recently, etc.
Pretty much the same shit I'd talk about now.
My personal experiences of course may not be representative of everyone, and like I said, it's been about 20 years so it's very possible my memory is faulty.
I agree.
Most of my jobs have been mostly male and I can count on one hand the number of guys I worked with who tried to chat up women while we were working.
In the locker room it was almost never about sex.
That the woman’s bathroom is cleaner and men’s bathroom is disgusting
This is both true and false simultaneously depending on the location 🤷♀️
Having worked in social services, I can tell you that women's bathrooms are grotesquely worse than men's. By a degree that is almost incomprehensible to the untrained.
I've seen some nasty shit cleaning men's bathrooms. I've seen some incomprehensible shit cleaning women's bathrooms.
Me working retail, after a bathroom issue was reported in the women's room: "How did it get on the ceiling?!"
"Oh my god! There's so much blood!"
The blood I could handle. The black goo mixed into it was a bit much.
More like Jackson Pollock painting with the medium of feces
Men can grill. There’s a lot of fools out there that don’t know how to BBQ proper.
All men think about sex and nothing else...
Or that women don’t
Women dont like video games. Its BS.
More like, the internet will have you believe that women who plays video games either is:
A porn model that just uses video games as a guise.
Or
A male hiding under a female guise who plays video games.
"Men don't communicate." There are multiple modes of communication. If you know, you know.
Men with big trucks = Men with small dicks.
Oh wait. You said obviously false. My bad.
From what I hear, most female slumber parties don't involve tickle fighting in your underwear.
Are you saying Jordan Capri lied to me during a very formative period of my life???
We were all lied to!
Women belong in the kitchen and are only good for making babies.
Or that's what misogynists think.
Women know how to do make-up, and men are shit at it. I had no clue until I started wearing it again at 22y.o. And there will always be men, who know more about make-up than I might ever know.
I'm sure I could still put on a pretty good foundation, white powder, and eyeliner, and then "misc additional black colors".
Source: I've worn corpse paint to many concerts. It's been a while, though.
Aren't all people comments here stereotypes? I've spent the last hour searching about the meaning of "trope" because I got jaded of it. A trope about group of men or woman (by what I do understand now) would be, for example, every protagonist would be a woman because they got lock in the girls bathroom.
That last "obviously false" in your questions remarks that, yea, you are talking about stereotypes.
Idk, maybe I'm wrong since I didn't knew the word and I'm still fresh after a small time of research.