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[–] 60d@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 day ago

Talk to old people. They have time to listen. Delete all social media.

[–] RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world 1 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Mandatory copulation every 14 hours.

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[–] astrsk@fedia.io 3 points 1 day ago

Get rid of smartphones entirely.

[–] frankPodmore@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 day ago
  • Sport and art
  • low cost and free places to do sport and art
  • linked together by public transit and clean, safe places to walk, run or cycle (or scoot or skate or whatever)
  • a shorter working week, so people have time to do the above
  • a higher minimum wage, so people can afford the (ideally low, if necessary) costs involved

So, e.g., lots of parks with publicly accessible five-a-side football pitches, ping-pong tables, basketball courts, skateparks whatever - that's your sport. The parks also have bandstands or outdoor theatres, where there's space for that.

Public libraries with rooms people can hire (or use for free) for book clubs, sewing circles, art classes - that's your art.

Good thing about the above is that all these ideas already exist in lots of forms, you just pick whatever works best for your current situation.

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I think the big challenge now is to create a method of online dating that isn't a miserable experience for most of its users, but if I had a creative solution for that, I'd be rich.

Other than that, AI friends. That's the future.

[–] FaceDeer@fedia.io 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Have those AI friends play matchmaker between their human companions, solves both problems.

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

AI would be a good matchmaker between people who were honest, but I think that doesn't address the main problem with online dating. That problem (at least for heterosexuals) is that there are a lot more men than women participating. I think women don't like online dating because they get harassed by creeps and they're worried that even someone who seems nice will turn out to be a creep in real life. Creeps will be willing to lie to a matchmaking AI because they don't actually care about compatibility and just want the "one weird trick" that gets women to have sex with them.

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[–] fubo@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Live with friends.

[–] venusaur@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Go to open mic or karaoke nights. Hype everybody up. Talk to people after their performance.

Start a hobby and find a local group to do your hobby with other people. Sometimes if you’re really into the hobby the group will find you. E.g. you’re at the park doing your hobby and see other people doing your hobby. You talk to them and they know a group of people doing it too.

Assuming your job doesn’t involve much face to face interaction, volunteer somewhere in person and talk to the people you’re working with and the people you’re serving.

Set up a booth at a high foot traffic area with a sign that says, “Free jokes.” Or “Free Magic.” Memorize some decent jokes or magic tricks and do them. Talk to people. Ask if they want you to perform at their house for their friends. Become the token magician friend.

[–] Beebabe@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

For me, working in human services does the trick. Over the summer I take a vacation to heal body/mind, and swap to spending more time on MMOs, a Mud, and making sure I go “out” somewhere at least once a day. Even just to the library.

[–] mikenurre@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Go to the bar, drink, tip well. At least the bartenders will want to socialize when they can, even if only for their own self interests (tips). Also, other patrons might be in the same boat, and you can commiserate over drinks!

[–] Fedditor385@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Turn off internet access, or throttle it to the minimal usable speed.

[–] Ziggurat@jlai.lu 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

As any other problems, it's an issue with political will

  • Have minimum delivery fee to force people to visit physical store over "online shopping" and promote farmer marker and city-centre (village-centre) shopping so people interact with each other

  • End-up US style suburbanization, these nice house in a quiet area are great to sleep-in but means you're away from every social activity, and when you're too young/too old to drive it turns into house arrest

  • Increase subsidises for non profit-club, especially for the one having under 25 and above 65 members If you go playing scrabble, theatre or practice Karate you stop being lonely

  • Carpooling parking and lanes to push worker to interact with people living nearby

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[–] quediuspayu@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Easy, stop considering any kind of digital communication as social interaction, it might seem like it but it is not.

We call it social media, social networks, communities, groups but rarely think about the individuals within them, it's I saw on Facebook or according to Reddit. We tend to think about the entire platform as a single entity, we barely notice the names of the users.

Messaging apps. How often do we ask to someone how's going? And to how many people? We might spend the whole day in the group chat of our actual friends and still not know if they are fine or not.

[–] dumbass@quokk.au 1 points 1 day ago

Try and find where my invisible friend went then hang out with them again.

[–] JeSuisUnHombre@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Plenty of good real solutions in the comments here. My creative solution is to add a feature to everyone's phone that automatically will FaceTime them with someone also on their phone in the area. You can't turn it off, you can only add people to your default list. No guarantee they're who you connect to though.

[–] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I fear that would just turn into a system for forcing surprise dick pics onto people

Is the epidemic one of loneliness or one of improper socialization, a background fear of people and purposelessness? Sadly, idk how to make people change their minds and hearts besides just talking to them and hoping something sticks.

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Abolish digital slavery and publicly code and fund the public commons with no scraping or exploitation whatsoever. Restore the rights of autonomy and self determinism required for a citizen in a democracy and people will return to the culture that existed before google won its privateer piracy charter to digitally enslave everyone in exchange for free email and search results because the US was too backwards to fund the fundamental public commons required for real democracy and was itching for slavery again at the first opportunity of going unnoticed.

Why u need creative? If u actually wanna fix it all u need is a shared social activity with a regular attendance of everyone. And would u look at that we just reinvented religion and church.

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