I don't get it, were you a plate this whole time?
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"You knew what I meant, fuck off out of my life."
Well pehaps he was engaging in the metaphor, instead of saying "I think you're too sensitive"
If you've ever hurt some one badly enough to cause a break in the relationship, you know the apology is just the start to the repair.
The plate wasn't a little bitch like you.
I have encountered this analogy irl. I was pretty drunk and said something distasteful to a friend. She ended our friendship over it and caused the group we were in to split into factions. We tried talking it over, but after I made all efforts I could to apologise, she responded with the plate analogy.
Honestly I thinks its a bad position to take. People have wronged me too over the years. Forgiving them, regardless of them apologising or not, is, in my experience, the better option for yourself.
The hate you carry with you if you don't doesn't do anything to them, but it eats you up from the inside. Forgiving somebody frees you from that. It's not about forgetting what people have done to you (and maybe choosing not to keep them in your life depending on how bad it was that they did), it's about not carrying the hate with you trough the years.
I understand your position and kind of agree, but some things aren't easily forgiven or ignored.
I have known people that were like family to me that betrayed my trust. although I wish them success in their lives, they are forever strangers to me because they are not who I thought they were, and just like a stranger that has broken my trust I cannot and will not subject myself to their lies again.
Have I moved past their betrayal? I think so. Have I forgiven them? Yes. Do I want those people in my life again? no. never.
Have I moved past their betrayal? I think so. Have I forgiven them? Yes. Do I want those people in my life again? no. never.
That's exactly what I was tyring to get at. Forgiving is something you do for yourself. That doesn't mean you have to forget about what happend nor not let it have consequences. But holding to the grudge will do nothing but harm yourself.
I've met people who I think really relish being aggrieved. I don't have even 1% of the interpersonal conflict in my life that these people complain about. I think that, while people do say things which offend them, they see these things as an opportunity to be a victim. Anecdotally, I've noticed a lot of these people usually have wealthy upbringings
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haha infantilizing emotional trauma is great for relationships
I'm sorry
It’s not that easy 🫤
Why?
Take a plate and throw it on the floor.
My floor is made out of nerf.
Except that we’re not plates, and most of us aren’t so fragile that we cannot recover from being emotionally distraught.
Most people are exactly neither equipped nor mature enough to recover from deep emotional trauma
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The plate represents trust in that analogy. You can repair it but it'll never be whole.
Look at Mr./Ms./Mx. "Has-their-shit-together" over here
Yeah I was thinking of this too. Even if your “plate” is broken, it CAN be made whole again & it can become greater than it was before.
Clearly someone was never cheated on
Is there lore for this screenshot?
I also want to know. But no, it's possible it's about losing someone's socks.
But my brain went to cheating first, and that's not an easy recovery.
Think of how resistant we will all be aoon as the plastic takes over our bodies!
Thats why I dont even consume microplastics anymore, I consume macroplastics :3
From the moment I understood the weakness of my flesh, it disgusted me.
I craved the strength and certainty of polypropylene.
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This is deep. The more makeup you use, the less you have a right to your imperfections.
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