You can be nice and shit. I don't think the two are mutually exclusive.
this post was submitted on 09 Apr 2025
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Yeah, I’m so nice and great and fun, yet nobody wants to actually be around me. Actions speak louder than words. I don’t think I’m shit, but I do think people are two faced.
Life as an introvert, with introverted friends.
So you are nice and great fun but people don't want to be around you? Are you also great at self-reflection?
“Great” is such a strong word. Let’s just say that I’m in a constant state of self-improvement. And as long as people make an attempt at being respectful, I try to take constructive criticism for what it is meant to be. Of course, there is a wee bit of bias in those two statements, so I’ll leave it to the community at large to call bullshit if it’s needed. 😊
Everyone should be in a state of self-improvement. But sometimes you do need to take a step back and realize that you are orders of magnitude harder on yourself than anyone (that you would want to be around) will be.
You said your friends and family think you're fun and enjoy being around you. Do you think your friends and family are actually shitty people just stringing you along for the fun of it? Do you trust them in other aspects?
I was talking to a friend about this one time and he cut me off and just said "that's hurtful man. Why would you say that about me?" and that really gave me some insight. Because I was telling myself "my friends are all fake", but what my friends here is "i dont believe you are there for me".
I came across this poem, and it reminded me of your reply, so I thought that I’d share.
If they want to choose something over you, LET THEM.
If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM.
If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM.
If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM.
If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM.
If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM.
If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open, AND LET THEM.
Let them lose you. You were never theirs, because you were always your own.
So let them.
Let them show you who they truly are, not tell you.
Let them prove how worthy they are of your time.
Let them earn your forgiveness.
Let them call you to talk about ordinary things.
Let them take you out on a Thursday.
Let them talk about anything and everything just because it’s you they are talking to.
Let them have a safe place in you.
Let them see the heart in you that didn’t harden.
Let them love you.
Author: Cassie Phillips
Counterpoint: you're too shit at tricking people. They are not being fooled and believe you are actually nice because you are.
shit
The explanation? I am an incredibly powerful trickster goddess. Same with my impostor syndrome.
If you aren't a nazi, or some other types of bigot, you are already better than half of the population on Earth.
lazy and selfish. i'm a pet project. people have to do so much work to appease me, and I never think of them until years later "oops I should have said thank you" I'm garbage, I should
too real and I hope it gets better
I actually got in trouble at work once because the manager believed I was being nice to people to trick them into liking me by making them think I was a good person when, according to him, I actually wasn't. I had to sit there in a meeting and explain to him that being nice to people you like and with whom you want a good relationship is normal human social interaction.
Me: you're just saying that because you're supposed to. I don't see most of you but twice a year! You just don't know I'm shit!
I looked through the infinite time lines before I was born and it turned out the absolute most harm I could inflict upon humanity is if I am the nicest possible person in this lifetime, I have no memory of my pre-birth but I am compelled in all things to be as nice as possible, and because of that I have came to loathe every waking moment of my existence.
Fake it tll you make it.