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For a lot of us, offline options are either nonexistent or too expensive to make a regular thing. I grew up in the suburbs and i went to a shitty school where no one wanted to be my friend so I was stuck indoors all day not by choice, and as an adult i can't even pay electric bill let along go out all the time
Ok, so you can go out all the time without "going out" all the time. You don't have to go shopping or to bars or expensive events, there are cheap activities out there. Parks are a good option, go for a walk, take photos of wildlife, go fishing, fly a kite. Or get into biking, or juggling, parkour. Or join a club, book clubs or film clubs are a lot of fun not expensive and you get to meet people and have real conversations. Go to your local library, they can tell you about upcoming free events, it connect you with clubs, or communities. While you're there, ask the library if they have cheap or free tickets to things like museums or zoos, they often do.
There are a whole lot of ways to disconnect, but one thing is absolutely certain, you're stuck on social media because you're using social media. Just stop using it and it can't trap you or control you. You can stay in touch with people with text messaging and phone calls, it totally still works. Also, a good reason to disconnect is just to distance yourself from "the algorithm", don't let some machine tell you what it thinks you should like, figure out what you like for yourself.
Those aren't really great options for meeting people.
Going out into the world is essentially the only way to meet people. Try it, see what happens.
Though, I was talking about ways to disconnect, things to do; how to enjoy life without social media. If you're only focused on meeting people though, well actually I still recommend clubs and hobbies.
yeah to be honest that was and is my situation, exactly, too "^^
People scapegoat smartphones because they want to isolate vulnerable teens, and all these laws excluding younger people from public spaces aren't helping either even if they did have the money
Back in the day people would gather on a porch and play music. Relatively free. Wish I knew how to play an instrument ...