this post was submitted on 21 Nov 2025
576 points (94.0% liked)

Tumblr

261 readers
15 users here now

Welcome to /c/Tumblr

All the chaos of Tumblr, without actually going to Tumblr.

Rule 1: Be Civil, Not CursedThis isn’t your personal call-out post.

  • No harassment, dogpiling, or brigading
  • No bigotry (transphobia, racism, sexism, etc.)
  • Keep it fun and weird, not mean-spirited

Rule 2: No Forbidden PostsSome things belong in the drafts forever. That means:

  • No spam or scams
  • No porn or sexually explicit content
  • No illegal content (don’t make this a federal case)
  • NSFW screenshots must be properly tagged

If you see a post that breaks the rules, report it so the mods can handle it. Otherwise just reblog and relax.

founded 1 month ago
MODERATORS
 
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 days ago (10 children)

There's no difference between a gay man and a straight man, outside of specifically who they're trying to fuck. Suggesting someone might be one or the other isn't harmful, since there's no real way to tell without asking.

Telling a man they didn't pass is rude af.

I don't see how those can be equivocated. Sexual preference and gender identity are different things defined, characterized, and experienced in wildly different ways.

[–] Credibly_Human@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (5 children)

You literally mention the difference but then want to ignore the implications of that difference.

Gay men and Straight men generally have differences on average in what they do to attract perceived partners past the baselines of having a pulse and being a functional human being.

[–] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone -2 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Yes, but that's all social and varies person to person, region to region, etc. Even if there are typical differences, that's not a rule. Which is the point.

[–] Credibly_Human@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Even if there are typical differences, that’s not a rule. Which is the point.

Something not being a rule doesnt make it locally insignificant. People in these various regions and cultures all have general ideas of how they would like to outwardly present themselves.

load more comments (3 replies)
load more comments (3 replies)
load more comments (7 replies)