Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Yeah, it's possible that your orientation might "change". People that do experience a change typically experience an expansion in the people they're attracted to, rather than a shift in a different direction. That being said, some people have experienced a shift in orientation, rather than an expansion, but it's very uncommon. And even when it does happen, you don't magically fall out of love with your partner
Now, the caveats. It's not simply hormones. Hormones could play a part, but self perception, self confidence and shedding of denial are also things at play. So you almost certainly won't find your orientation shifts just because you start taking HRT.
My own personal experience? My orientation "shifted", but also, not really... I'd spent my life dating women, but my attraction to them was always different to other folk. On the other hand, I had never experienced attraction to men, nor do I really have any memories of moments of clear denial of attraction to men. So I don't know whether my own experience was one of coming out of denial, or genuine change.
I'm still mostly sexually attracted to men, but I can be romantically attracted to anyone, and honestly, I value romantic attraction far more than I value sexual attraction, so I have mostly still dated women since I transitioned. My one time dating a guy, I felt like I had stepped out of one closet in transitioning, only to step in to another one when my queerness became invisible to people.
My relationships with women aren't very sexual (they never have been), but they're very intimate (they always have been), and that part hasn't changed with my transition, but my own understanding of my personal experience has shifted.
My relationships with women have always been intensely sexual. I fall firmly in the category of hypersexual I'm also an extremely tactile person generally. As far as men go I only really find them attractive if they are almost indistinguishable from women in appearance and even then I'm pretty sure the smell would put me off. Im pretty sure the smell thing is hormonal though, because pregnant women drive me absolutely insane, but only if I'm in the same room as them. Otherwise there's no difference in attractiveness.
As far as men go, I just don't experience any attraction outside of a few femboys. But even then the smell isn't right.