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how do i take things slow with my gf? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 2 months ago by nonBInary@thelemmy.club to c/lesbians@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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so, we are holding hands but she doesn’t wanna kiss or anything because she wants to wait a while so we take it slow because i started dating her a week ago. however, i am very attached and expressive with my love and she is… less?? how can we make things work and how do i make it so i change and take things slower??

Right now, i’m too bummed out and depressed to want to be romantic or attached, so that’s “good” i guess

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[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I wish I could help but all of my gfs have wanted to play tonsil hockey (minimum) from the first date. I'm not sure I would have the strength of mind to take things slow. I'm 100% sure I would go insane.

[–] nonBInary@thelemmy.club 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

i feel like people ive dated might be on the aroace spectrum or demiromantic or something but idk

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

That's rough. Although from my point of view (hypersexual) pretty much everyone is. It's extremely frustrating.