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The people on the couch don't exist. It's an unrealistic expectation nobody actually has.
Edit: the unrealistic part is that they have so few corners to fit and they fit perfectly. It's more complicated than that.
I don't quite agree. Yes, it's not as pronounced as it is displayed here, but there's still definitely a difference in statistical compatibility amount. If you have a very unusual life situation, with a non-neurotypical mental structure, the amount of compatible partners gets smaller and smaller compared to people that have a more "common" (specifically not using the word normal here) setup going.
LGBTQ+ and non standard life situation gets ya basically zero partners, too. The dating pool for MLM is already tiny compared to cishet dating. Add into that being a caregiver for your parents and it's basically zero dudes that are willing to even consider you as a partner. :/ But I ain't throwing mama under the bus (or from the train) for no dick. Lol
Maybe not that phrasing, but there is the phrase, “You’ll find someone”. There’s the belief that there’s somebody for everybody out there, parents eventually seem to want their kids to find someone and make grandkids. I mean, given that there’s billions of us on the planet, there’s bound to be somebody compatible out there, maybe not in your zip code or country, but they’re out there.
I don't think that's entirely true, but even if it is, they could be accurately interpreted as one's expectation of oneself.
Not a healthy expectation, but a real one.