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I feel like such a bad boyfriend (lemmings.world)

submitted 1 day ago by throwaway789@lemmings.world to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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Yesterday, my boyfriend was very stressed and was going through a lot of family issues. I told him I couldn't stay for long. My family is strict and wanted me to go to bed and not be on my phone. My boyfriend then was asking where I was and why I was offline and not responding. He must not have seen my message but I had to go. And I feel so bad that he didn't read it and that I had to go, I feel like such an awful person for not being able to help. I know I suck, I know I just could've snuck it, but I just want someone to listen. Not criticism, please, like many people have said.

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[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I did, he said it was fine but I still feel bad for making him panic

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Oh! Then you're not a bad bf and it doesn't sound like a toxic relationship (well from that minimal info anyway...could be other things going on)! Like the other user stated, it is a bit odd how your parents are still controlling your phone usage, but other than that it sounds like everything is ok! Don't worry about it! Miscommunications happen!

[–] DacoTaco@lemmy.world 3 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

What @dingus@lemmy.world said, but also take him for a picnic, ask him to explain and talk about what happened with the family issues and why they had a bit of a panic. Treat them to something if you feel sorry and want to be there for them. It might be late but it shows that you care and that, within your limits as a person and situation, you try to be there.
It would have been better to not do what i said and have been there from the beginning, but every person and situation is different and thats the magic of (romantic) relationships, get to know the person and learn what priorities need to be set in your life and how the other lives/responds!

Youre not a bad person, youre only 18. Youll learn and get there @throwaway789@lemmings.world !

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 1 points 1 day ago

Thank you so much!!! I agree with the phone usage, they just don't want me to have bad sleep