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I have to do (computerized) paperwork at the end of the shift, and it's so hard when my coworkers (who are doing the same thing) are talking loudly all around me. I can't filter out voices the way neurotypical people can, I have a weakened cocktail party effect and it's hell trying to write anything if even one person talks around me.
Then I see my coworkers standing around in the parking lot chatting after work, and I just think, "Wow, to have the energy to voluntarily socialize after an entire day of work is amazing." I mean, I know it isn't amazing to them, but I'm just glad to be back in my quiet car going home, knowing I don't have to speak to another soul for the rest of the day if I choose not to.
Interesting. I didn't know the selective hearing has a name. This doesn't work for me, so I tend to give up on conversations after a while when I'm in loud environment. ๐คทโโ๏ธ
Same. It it's important, I'll try to lead whoever I'm trying to talk to somewhere quieter.
I'm glad to have helped you learn a new term! I never did like the phrase "selective hearing." It implies that we have a choice in the matter, that we are opting to "selectively" listen or not. Although that might be the case for some people, I personally strain to listen but just can't filter out irrelevant noise. So it bothers me when someone calls it "selective."