Relationship Advice
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The ideal place to ask for help with your relationships: romantic, friendships, we don't know what we are yet, co-workers or just human interactions in general.
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Even Drake got allegations for being friends with Millie Bobby Brown. The truth is, there's no reason an adult needs to be friends with a minor.
I run a pathfinder group with neurodivergent kids ages 12 to 16, I'm 37. I see the kids as kids that I might help avoid the pitfalls and solitude I felt growing up as neurodivergent. They see me as a friend, and I see them as "kid friends". I wouldn't "hang out" with any of them, but we play pen and paper and sometimes other games via the local library and sometimes at the local boardgame club.
One of the parents are very suspicious of me, and I have debated how to handle it. Since the kid is still in the group, I've decided to just let it be since any talk about it with the parent might be interpreted as "pre-defence" or something like that.
25m/13f is pretty questionable but I (M) can remember making good friends with adults as a teen through work and just people in the neighborhood. It's just about keeping things appropriate.
Hell, for that matter I was hanging out with my brother's nephew (dunno the word for it) a few weekends ago and the age gap was about like the OP's example but moved up a few years. Cool guy, we played BlOps Zombies. Not gonna chat everyday on Snapchat but we're friends IMO and chat about school/life whenever we see each other
fair enough, he just helps her with schoolwork sometimes, idk if they are friends like two adults are though, he calls her a friend though