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I’m bi (pan, but the bi flag is better) but… is bi diet-gay?
No, it is not, and don't ever let anyone pin a sexuality label that isn't you on you. I am bi and Gen-X. In the 80's and 90's I took constant shit from homophobic straight people, as expected. What I didn't expect, and was truly hurt by, was my homosexual acquaintances calling me "closeted", "confused gay", or "a greedy f*g".
Sorry. I'm clearly still bothered by the bullshit from that era.
Oh dear my comment was in jest, I’m sorry. I call myself gay often but really I’m bi. I’m an old millennial, and grew up when when being tagged as “gay” was a social death sentence. Luckily, I flew under the radar until it became socially unacceptable here to dunk on queer folk. Bow basically my entire friend group is gay, queer, or tans. All of my siblings ended up queer, even the ones in straight marriages lawl. My folks had a lot to learn, and now they’re cool… but weren’t always.
Anyway, I mean no animosity by calling my bi-ass “diet gay”.
They're under the same umbrella, and are functionally the same thing. Bi is just compatibility with the same/different genders, pan is just compatibility with all genders. Bisexual as a term has had a long and confusing history (it essentially meant intersex in the olden days), so then another standard was created (bisexuality as we think of in the contemporary context) as the terminology evolved, then another standard was created on top of that within the last 30ish years or so (pansexuality).
So basically this, lol.
Scientists now just refer to the entire category as "Bi+" as future forks come out. You get to choose which flag you like best, and everyone knows you are on the universal compatibility standard x3