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Hmm, I hadn’t considered that, but it tracks. The popular aspects of contemporary male gender identity are hard for me to understand. Often it strikes me as trauma-related pathology, as if boys were socialized poorly on purpose to serve an imagined need in society like war.
I’ve definitely seen many examples of what you’re talking about, though, like this apparent need to be perceived as not just male but the most male, but I don’t have a good theory for where it comes from.
Yeah I do the same, and tend to go with whatever gender others assume, but then gender-bending is kind of my jam. It’s more important to others to have a stable, recognizable gender identity, and I’m pretty sure I get it.
Re: people online totally ignoring your username, honestly that sounds like par. People’s attention is spread more thinly these days, and anyway the average person is just very average. Especially in online spaces trending male, its easier to just assume, so people do. For me, incoming gender assumptions are the mystery prize in each box of cracker jacks, but I’m privileged to be tall and rarely worry about physical safety.
Well it’s almost the weekend so party on. I’ll meet you there.