Parents you can tell anything to and be heard without judgement, or a list of all your failings in life.
Parents you're not afraid to tell that you tried for something, just in case you fail and it will be used against you for the rest of your life?
Just to clarify, I love my parents and know they love me back, but 10 minutes is literally the limit of co-existence
My dad softened a lot lately, seeing his parents go made him realize how important the relationship with his own children is.
On my mum's side, I'm afraid she will always be tone deaf and self absorbed, but I learned not to resent her for that
difficult though
I dont know that learning to not hold resentment for the obligate resentable is a good thing
The alternative is to be angry your whole life and that, in my opinion, is even worse.
Are you No contact with them? Have they at least improved if not?
I used to be in no speaking terms with my mom for a long time, but as I said I didn't want to be angry anymore, it's tiresome and ruins your life.
She didn't improve, but our relationship did because I learned to set boundaries without some sort of "violence escalation" from both sides. It took time and patience, but I think it's one of the fundamental steps to become a real adult and not just a grown up child
Nice to hear you made it work better for yourself tho. Boundaries make a huge difference.