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[–] [email protected] 21 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I need scientific cawntex, please.

Is this a symptom of past trauma? Is this connected to complexes around self worth?

Spam me please.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

Long answer: It just goes to show that you can't beat an internal problem with external validation, no matter how convincing it would be to the average onlooker. If your self-image/self-worth is low, you have to challenge that assumption internally first. Our (often skewed) perception is way more convincing than it should be.

Short answer: don't try to evaluate your life when sleepy

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

Yeah some times I get in a kind of way and my friends will be super kind and supportive to me. It helps for a bit but then I go right back to it. Perpetuates the guilt of why I don't think I'm a good person to them because I always end up back to the bad place, which feels like a burden to others.

I'm super anxious about it, but for the first time in my life I'm trying out an SSRI. So we'll see.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

I thought he met a nice girl he liked, he was playing games with his friend, they all hung out and his friend and the girl crushed on each other, and now he feels unloved by both of them

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

We're all not aware of ourselves as we are aware of others. We can see someone else bashing themselves over some mistake and see how they're being toxic to themselves, thinking "it's just a small mistake, not a big deal, they can just try again and ignore it, why do they make such a big deal out of it?"... but then we can do exactly the same thing and not even notice it.

We are uniquely terrible at objectively rating our personal situation. Even just having some friends to do stuff with, like in this comic, is already average or even above average in "being lovable". But the person in the comic might compare themselves with the most popular person around them, or they might want to be loved by one particular person by whom they are not, even if plenty of other people do or would love them.

We are really good at finding one bad thing about our lives and ignoring all the other good things we got going on, because the human psyche is wired to disproportionately focus on the bad instead of the good.

Without manual working against all these natural effects, the result is seen in the comic, an unhappy person that doesn't really need to be unhappy. So no, this doesn't require any particular trauma, this is just completely natural human behavior that almost anyone shows sometime in their lives. Some more, some less, depending on trauma, but can happen to anyone.