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Apology Letter, Need to Improve (lemmy.zip)
submitted 1 month ago by Marycat1@lemmy.zip to c/autism@lemmy.world
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So a friend of mine who I’ve had a good relationship with for several months told me about a month ago that she wants to stop talking to me all together as she thinks I am too overbearing and bring up unnecessary topics unintentionally. She basically said that I stole her voice from her, that she never can get a word in around me, and that she is a very private person. Yet, she never let me explain why I am the way that I am.

I never meant for this to happen, and I feel terrible about it, it’s all my fault. I want to write her a letter to apologize, as we both communicate best through writing. In this draft, it seems like I’m talking entirely about me, but really, I’m trying to understand how she feels. I need to make edits obviously though lol.

If you are interested or good at writing / editing, I’d love to know where I can improve. There will be three posts as I am only allowed to add one photo at a time 🙄.

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[–] lolo@sh.itjust.works 43 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Don’t write the letter. She was honest and straightforward with you, communicated her needs, and is asking you to respect that. Your reaction is to violate that space. And not only that, but do it so you can talk about yourself. Don’t do it. Respect the relationship you had, and when you recognize that connection again with someone else in your life, remember what she told you and try to use it for the next friend.

Also, I’m sorry you’re not treated well by other people who are supposed to lift you up. I hope your future is full of great and storied friendships and that you love yourself to pieces. Your friend gave you what sounds like a great example of making boundaries and only engaging in relationships that are mutually satisfying. All thoughts from an internet stranger, just hoping you take good care of yourself. <3

[–] reversedposterior@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

Very much this. Something I've learnt over the years being a middle aged autistic person is that when someone has made a decision, respect it and move on, irrespective of whether you think it is based on incorrect information. I learnt this by doing the opposite as a kid.