Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Hey congraties on making moves to move forward!
While it is awesome to have someone or someones to help you with this, a good size group of us navigated this completely alone. Because of having no support, being afraid, or whatever other reason. I figured all this out on my own, even though i have a cis female partner. Shes just half blind my poor girl.
So aint nothing to it but to do it. Youll find theres ALOT of trial and error. For example, im still trying to figure out concealer, i have like 6 different bottles of the stuff, and still cant get it where i want it.
Start small, maybe with nails. Or go perfume shopping. As for the clothes thing, thrift stores are incredible for this. Not only because cheap clothes, but also because if your not publicly girlmode yet then you dont get to try on before you buy. Going thrifting is making sure you can get some cute stuff, but also if it doesnt fit no worries you can just redonate it.
Some tips!
Less is more, with all of it. Makeup nails what have you. Multiple thin layers of polish will look better than 1 or 2 thick layers. Every brand of nail polish and makeup is different. Some eye shadow takes only a tiny bit to show up on your eye, other brands it feels like you need half the tray to make the color show.
The most important thing right now, when your dipping in, is to pay attention!! Find what works and what doesnt. See how your skin reacts to the makeup you just bought and put on. Take care of your skin and hair, find a routine that works for you (my skin routine is: Toner, Eye cream, vitamin c oil, thirst drops, and moisturizer. Hair is not washed everyday, conditioner, leave in OR heat trestment if im straightening. Plus hair masques and damage repair stuff when i dye it.)
Point is, its a lot. Your gonna get stuff that doesnt work for you (i have a whole tote full) dont stress about being perfect, none of us were. Just do little things thatll help you find yourself. Even just a skin routine can do wonders for how you feel.
Also also, it shouldnt really be girly to take care of your skin, but it isπ
And thats why men look like garbage when they get old lmao