Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Seems like you already have a good idea on things you are interested in trying. I am a similar age and started HRT 2 years ago so I was in a similar situation, and I have a few specific recommendations.
When it comes to Hair Removal I bought a cheap at home IPL device. It has removed most of my facial hair, but IPL and Laser Hair Removal do no work on white hairs. I have a few white beard hairs that I am going to have removed with electrolysis.
For nails as others have said you can start with a clear nail polish to practice and to wear. In my experience most men don't really notice a clear coat and women have been supportive. If you are going to do your own nail polish you may want a nourishing nail polish remover since 100% acetone can make your nails soft.
For wigs you can get cheap wigs on aliexpress or similar direct from china stores. The synthetic wigs are cheap and you can modify them without worrying about ruining an expensive wig. The synthetic wigs do not look as good, but you can use them to get a feel for what type of hair style you may want. If you do want to modify or style the wig a good pair of hair cutting scissors will help. I have followed youtube tutorials from brad mondo with some success.
I have some male pattern baldness (androgenic alopecia) using minoxidil (generic rogain) has helped. If you have recent hair loss minoxidil can help.
For makeup I have found the brand E.L.F Cosmetics to be good for makeup that is on the cheaper end. I have used E.L.F products to practice and learn makeup without spending a lot of money.
For clothing as others have said thrift shops can be a good way to try out new styles. A style guide that I often see linked is Triangle Body Shape I have wider shoulders so certain styles don't look the best on me. This guide can give you an idea of styles you might want to try that can be more flattering if you also have wide shoulders.