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37 years young. Tomorrow, I'm finally asking my home physician to send me to a gender identity clinic to assess whether I have dysphoria according to my country's standards and policies. If my physician does send me there, then within a few years I might get the much needed diagnosis and then I will finally be eligible for HRT.

MEANWHILE.

I have made a list of things that I can start exploring in order to feel more comfortable with the woman within. Gosh... Please excuse my phrasing. I'm so effing closeted. ๐Ÿ˜…

  • Hair removal - booked!!! Going on the 27th.

  • Perfumes - planned!!! Trying some out tomorrow.

  • Nails - don't even know where to start. I have NEVER even given these babies a second's thought. ๐Ÿ˜ญ

  • Wigs - I have no hair. If and when I get diagnosed, the state will provide a certain amount every year to buy wigs and they will refer me to a professional wig maker as part of the treatment for dysphoria.

  • Makeup - no idea where to start. Is there ANY other way than watching YouTube tutorials? Although I totally accept that this probably is the most effective way.

  • Clothes - am I just supposed to try on everything I find pretty? ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿฉท๐Ÿฉต๐Ÿค

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[โ€“] lwhjp@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Congratulations! A couple of tips:

Makeup is as difficult as you want to make it. Tutorials on YouTube are a good way to get an idea for what you can do, but the only way to really figure it out is to practice. I'd suggest learning one thing at a time, and if you like how it looks it's not wrong! For me the most effective things are mascara, eyebrows, eyeliner, and foundation, roughly in that order. It took me a ridiculously long time and a lot of different products before I got anywhere with eyeliner, btw.

As for clothes, yes, wear what makes you happy! Be aware if you're buying online that stuff that looks good on the model may not suit you. And your shape will change a lot on HRT, so don't give up hope!

Good luck <3

That's great advice! I first bought all the things, but mostly ended up using only mascara and CC cream (to mask redness after shaving or a minimal stubble). For now, at least. It is enough to make me smile at my reflection. CC cream feels like a cheat, honestly.