Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
- Please follow the rules of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance.
- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
- Please be kind and respectful to all.
- Please tag NSFW topics.
- No NSFW image posts.
- Please provide content warnings where appropriate.
- Please do not repost bigoted content here.
This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Awesome, it's great that you're 1. discovering yourself, 2. planning the next steps and also 3. seek community! You have our support โค๏ธ
I personally feel a bit uncomfortable framing transgenderness as a medical condition that needs to be diagnosed, though I get it on a technical level.
I'm not sure what to make of your "English please. ๐ญ". Maybe people can link you stuff that's in another language, if you prefer that.
You'll hopefully have a lot of fun exploring girly things! Don't feel pressured to have to enjoy everything, or to be good at everything right from the start, or to educate yourself for hours before giving things a try.
Regular nail polish shouldn't be to hard to try, but make sure to also get nail polish cleaner/remover. Personally, I noticed my intuition betrayed me, regarding which colors I like. [Note: I honestly don't have much experience with nail polish, so take my advice with caution]
UV polish is slightly more involved. It gets harder & thus more durable than regular. You can try that out without getting a UV lamp if you simply do it on a sunny day and go outside / to an open window. You might need a base and top coast, so look that up if you wanna try UV.
It's a big plus if you can try on stuff without having to commit by buying it, like if you have a friend that let's you try out their nail polish or clothes. Thrift shops / clothing swap events are good to, so you don't spend much money before figuring out what you like.
I'd love to hear/see updates, whenever you're comfortable sharing! ๐งก
Finally back on a PC and keyboard ๐
What got deleted earlier was, although not in its full glory:
"English please. ๐ญ" was just a really bad joke, trying to imply that makeup, to me, is like a foreign language that I don't understand.
I can't stop smiling just by the thought of trying on nail polish! ๐๐ Maybe I'll check some out tomorrow when I'm also looking for perfumes.
There is a great thrift store where I live with a great selection of clothes that send a great variety of expression and identity! I live in isolation, but there might be one person whom I could ask to lend me, or even hang out with me when I try out, their nail polish. Although I can't stop wondering what she'll say when I ask her not to call me a boy.
I wrote such a long reply and accidentally pressed "cancel". ๐
I guess I'll just write the most important part for now: thank you so much for your heartwarming response! And thank you for not accepting transgenderness being framed as a medical condition. I easily go along with that jargon because of the hoops I have to jump through to justify myself. I even feel anxious about talking to the physician tomorrow, you know?
Anyhow, thank you for all the great advice!!!๐ฉต
That's completely valid to feel somewhat anxious about! Luckily, this is no exam, you don't need to score, you just need to somehow get the point across. You can do this ๐ช