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Whenever I see a comment on social media that I think is wrong, I feel the need to correct it. These arguments can go on for days, even weeks, and if I don’t win the argument, I get overly fixated on it, wondering where I went wrong and so on.

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[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

A habit isn’t often something you can quit cold turkey. Before replying, start asking yourself “is this worth my time?” More and more, the answer will become NO. Just move on.

For those occasions when you can’t resist replying, keep it lighthearted, friendly, and casual. If the response is angry, overly defensive, or otherwise unpleasant, force yourself to walk away. There can be no “winner” in a toxic situation. Even if the facts are on your side, you don’t need the stress.

[–] Kissaki@feddit.org 3 points 3 weeks ago

I want to add, not just "worth my time", but after writing out the response, one can ask oneself: "Does this add in a meaningful way?". If not, and reformulating/reapproaching is not worth it, then Cancel and leave the thread.