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I'm trying to retake the medication that I took back in high school (Concerta) so I can study for and eventually take the Comptia A+ exam. The idea being that I've a decently-paying remote job that will benefit both my wife and I. My wife, however, refuses to let me get my meds. This isn't the first we've had this conversion and every time she says the same thing: "You just need to focus naturally", "It's all in your head", "Doctors are only in it for themselves" and so on. There's no getting through to her and I'm tired of trying to get to reason with me. I think I'm going to get my meds in secret and hide them. I know that this is a bad idea but she leaves me no choice. Any advice?

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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

"This is my health and I'm going to speak about this with a doctor. I love you and appreciate your perspective, but this is my decision to make. If any changes as a result of this impact you, we can discuss them, but I've made my decision and I expect you to respect it the same as I respect the decisions you make about your health."

The fact that she thinks she gets to decide what medications you get to take is nuts to me. This is a boundary it's very worth building and maintaining. If side effects impact her then you can negotiate, but it's your body. You have the autonomy to decide what happens to it. She's just a trusted advisor on the matter of your body.