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I'm trying to retake the medication that I took back in high school (Concerta) so I can study for and eventually take the Comptia A+ exam. The idea being that I've a decently-paying remote job that will benefit both my wife and I. My wife, however, refuses to let me get my meds. This isn't the first we've had this conversion and every time she says the same thing: "You just need to focus naturally", "It's all in your head", "Doctors are only in it for themselves" and so on. There's no getting through to her and I'm tired of trying to get to reason with me. I think I'm going to get my meds in secret and hide them. I know that this is a bad idea but she leaves me no choice. Any advice?

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[–] kindnesskills@literature.cafe 11 points 2 days ago

Since you say you can take the meds in secret, I assume she isn't your medical or legal caretaker and isn't required to administer your medications?

If you are your own guardian and can administer your own medication, there is no need to lie about it, nor wait for her to approve of it.

If she was with you last time you were on medication: Are her objections based on how you reacted to it then, like did you change in any way (stop listening, prioritised other things, become emotionally closed off or volatile)?

Are you diagnosis and will get a prescription from a doctor, or would this be self-medicating?

Does she have any other objections youbhavent listed here?

I really don't think its a good idea to do these things in secret. The diagnosis is a part of you, either she can accept it or she doesn't accept you.

Couples counseling for sure! (non-religious, they may be free, but they may also just feed into her rejection of pharmaceuticals - very difficultto know beforehand... find one who works with neuro-divergent people, and if that therapist doesn't do couples they can refer you to someone who does)