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The implicit presumption is that if someone is quietly fuming now, they'll become physically violent later. Or verbally abusive. Or neglectful to the point of harm (refusing to feed a hungry child or change a dirty diaper out of spite, hunkering down in front of the TV and leaving the kids to put themselves to bed, etc).
But the flip side of this is a child seeing a parent in distress and trying to accommodate/relieve their pain (as opposed to a child blissfully unconcerned/unaware of the parent's stress antagonizing them).
YMMV. It's very hard to discuss a real historical situations when you're working from a superficial description or hypothetical implication.
I think where OP's narrative goes wrong is in describing tense moments in the house as a parental failure without looking beyond the immediate tension. Relationships aren't some morality play or ethical binary, with a Good Parent and a Bad Child or visa versa. Sometimes you've just got an overwhelmed parent and a child thrust into more responsibility than they're prepared to handle, as a consequence. Or a sick parent being cared for by a child. Or a grieving parent who is being comforted by a child who doesn't really understand what is going on.
A friend of mine just had his father-in-law pass away, and - of course - his wife was devastated. He had to take over all the household affairs while she worked through her grief. His kids, in turn, had to cope with a mom who was emotionally unresponsive and a dad who was juggling twice the workload. I've gotten a few curious anecdotes about how they've been processing the trauma. A lot of it has them replicating the care their parents showed them back onto their parents (as best a 2 year old and 4 year old can).
I think even that is too specific. I'm more reading it like someone describing a response to the Jaws soundtrack. Are you excited or intrigued or terrified or all of the above? Kinda depends on how you feel about seeing a big shark.
That is a gigantic leap... 100% of the population would have many healthy reasons for being quieter than they normally are and the vast majority do not blow up in a violent rage afterwards.
This is exactly my issue with this post.
Once again, not the point. We can talk hypotheticals all you want but if we are to make a point, it would be best to make a clear one
Exactly... I don't think it's fair to paint these parents as abusive. Moreover, I do not think there is anything wrong (in this scenario) with kids noticing and trying to help. But this post would paint them as abusive and the child's natural empathy as a toxic defense mechanism
Indeed it was too specific, but so was the post... a cabinet slam and/or a father being quiet is a far cry from symptoms of an abusive household
From the narrative, sure. But that's the cliche they're leaning on.
I agree. Like I said, "Jaws Music". The post is supposed to imply a lot more than they're willing to make explicit.
The point of the post is to simulate the feeling of looming dread, then use the emotional response to build empathy with the kid in the story.
This is all allegorical. "These parents" aren't anyone specific. The implication is that the kid in the story is staving off abuse. But, as we've both noted, it's also possible the kid in question is comforting parents who are - themselves - the victims of abuse or neglect.
"Walking on eggshells" implies a consequence if you don't. The consequence could be a parent flying into a rage. It could also be a parent breaking into tears or falling into a fugue state. "I'm trying to avoid getting beaten by my parents" tells a very different story than "I'm trying to prevent my mom/dad from breaking down into a puddle of tears".
Implies a high degree of tension.