cross-posted from: https://lemmynsfw.com/post/35216987

Hi ABDL threadiverse!

I thought I'd kick off an initial open "SFW" discussion here... and where better to start than asking about diapers! 😂

As of the start of 2026, for me it's gotta come down to ABUniverse's LittleKings or PretendAgain's TryAgains! Both have high capacity and perform well, and both have cute graphics. LittleKings win out a little bit on value I think, but TryAgains win out slightly in terms of quality in my experience. Both are really great!

How about you all? What do you like?

(Note: keep in mind that platforms like Lemmy and Mbin are not just news feeds, and they allow for posts to be sorted by active to keep discussions going, so feel free to join the discussion whenever you happen to find it and those of us who sort by "active" will still see it get bumped!)

This community, !ab_dl@lemmynsfw.com ...

• So we've got this community some moderation now. But just relying on one person, me, creates a single point of failure in the future that would be nice to avoid by bringing on one or two more trusted and active moderators moderators.
• I hate that we have an underscore in our community name. I would personally prefer for it to be "abdl" instead of "ab_dl", but the Lemmy software seems to consider those to be the same thing, making it impossible for us to create or migrate to a new name. It may be possible to have the community renamed with admin intervention, but maybe not, I don't know.
• We have some rules that I made up off the top of my head. If there are any issues with them or if people would like to suggest changes, I'm very open to suggestions. But for now, I think they seem good.
• In order to turn this place into a real community we really need people to be more active with posts, links, comments, and discussions. (That's where you all come in! Don't be shy! Whether it's random thoughts, original content or sourced reposts from elsewhere on the internet, let's get populate this place!)

Other Fediverse communities...

• Unfortunately there are still a lot of "dead" ABDL communities on the various big Lemmy servers that were made in the wake of the last big Reddit drama exodus. Probably with the best of intentions, @ABDL_Network@lemmynsfw.com created a lot of Reddit clone communities here on LemmyNSFW and then went MIA, leaving a lot of unmoderated communities. Similarly, there is also !abdl@lemmy.world over on Lemmy.world that was created and then left unmoderated. It would be nice to eventually revive and restore some of these communities to a more healthy, moderated state. But we probably need a couple of active, long-term Fediverse users to do it.
• I'm aware of the Mastodon server abdl.link too. This is kind of a different thing, but it's got a couple hundred users and seems to have some ongoing activity, so people may be interested in checking that out at some point.

Hi all! Well... I never thought I'd find myself moderating a seriously kinky NSFW adult community anywhere, but here we are!

I assume that this community was first created by a user named @ABDL_Network sometime in the wake of one of the big Reddit dramas that drove a lot of intense (but for many, temporary) interest in the Fediverse. I'm sure they did it with the best of intentions, but at some point along the way they went M.I.A., and this sub (among others) were left to stagnate.

So, while I've never had a very strong motivation to moderate a community like this, I also didn't want to see the potential of key kink communities be squandered here on the fediverse, so I requests to take over as the lead moderator.

As of right now, my vision for this community is to be a place away from Reddit and other corporate social media where the ABDL community and friends can hang out, discuss things, make connections, and share relevant media, SFW and NSFW alike. While this is a NSFW instance, and a kink-adjacent space, I want to warmly welcome all community members regardless of their sexuality, orientation, kinkiness, lifestyle, or whatever draws them here!

Right after posting this I'll be putting in some work to come up with what I think are appropriate rules and resources for getting this community off the ground. (Perhaps it's needless to say that ALL LemmyNSFW.com rules are to be followed here, but I'm saying it anyway!)

In the long term, I will be looking for trustworthy and responsible help to run this community from within in the form of additional mods who are active and upstanding members of the community.

So whether you're a comfortable ABDL, a longtime member of the kink community, or just a curious person who found their way here and is interested to find out more about this lifestyle/kink, I welcome you to participate respectfully and in good faith, and on top of that, have fun!

Edit 1: Please take a look at our new community rules in the side panel!

Edit 2: I'm happy to take any feedback or suggestions about anything at this point, so don't be shy!

I was trying to post the link to this page on ABDL related subreddits now that the protest is over. It seems they have set up an algorithm to remove all posts that point people towards joining Reddit.

Hopefully you guys find this!

Hi everyone, since Reddit has been going to shit lately and lemmy has suddenly gained a popularity, especially lemmynsfw. I noticed there were no ABDL related communities, I figured I would do you all a favor and create a network of them.

Feel free to take the time to introduce your selves!