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It would happen rarely before but recently I got ghosted by 2 guys in a row basically

To be fair they both had red flags but it doesn't really make me feel less bad. One of them even said we should get food sometime and I was looking forward to it..

I feel like everyone I've met online is a jerk. I'm okay with myself but I want someone to share life with and I feel like nothing is working out.

Even tried initiating several friendships and ppl were just not the least bit interested. I guess they already have their support networks, meanwhile I'm in a new place and have no one.

I'm turning 28 soon as just feel like I've become too old for making friends or dating or something. And I'm at the point where ppl think if you don't have your life together smth is wrong with you

I wanted to move to my grandma's place (actually only travel there to sleep) because I can't sleep in my apartment.

The problem is her place is literally disgusting and she gets mad when anyone cleans it.

She literally never vacuums and there's tons of dust everywhere and moths. It's been this way since forever. I tried to ask if we could at least vaccuum and she didn't let me, there's disgusting stuff caked onto the rugs on the floor idek what it is.

The curtains are also covered in dust. She doesn't have a washing machine and I asked if I could bring them to my place to wash them and she refused.

She told me I would be sleeping in the bigger bedroom, and also told me I wasn't allowed to open the windows. Like literally ever.

Now all of a sudden she changed her mind and told me I would be sleeping in my dead great grandma's room. I told her many times I refuse to sleep on the mattress she died in, it's literally 100 years old and caved in too.

I told her we could buy her a new mattress and she refuses. It's so f**** disgusting.

Not only that but she has the audacity to start bossing me around about random crap and telling me what to do. Jesus now I remember why I avoided speaking to her for so long, she's insufferable to be around

Not to mention that room has a balcony on it too, and my grandma always wakes up at like 6am and enters going back and forth back and forth hanging laundry

She won't even wash the fucking dishes and pots and cutlery (only wipes them with a rag) and gets ANNOYED and OFFENDED when you ask if you yourself can wash them first. She also gets OFFENDED if I don't want to eat any of her disgusting food made with extremely suspicious hygiene practices (last time I ate it I had the worst diarrhea of my life for a week).

For some reason that didn't seem to bother her at all. Instead I am the problem for wanting basic hygiene.

Then she got offended when I brought a small kitchen sponge for myself, because she said she "already has one" it's some GIANT bath sponge, have of it is missing from overuse, it's turned BROWN and probably 5 years old

To put a long story short I'm living in their empty apartment they bought and renovated from scratch. They plan to retire in it eventually. The economy doesn't let me move out.

The apartment has sound insulation issues. Not only that but the people living below me are literally evil and insane.

They hammer shit in the middle of the night and also imitate me. Like they always run the water when I take a shower, or they imitate my cats meowing or if I cough etc.

Whenever I mention any of this to my parents they gaslight me and tell me I'm insane and creating "imaginary problems that don't exist"

They've even tried framing me multiple times and trying to make me into the scapegoat, complaining to management about the sounds they're making and saying it's me.

I've begged my parents to go to management about them cause they're the owners of the apartment and they keep brushing me off.

I'm literally being psychologically tortured all day every single fucking day and all night.

I just don't fucking understand how and why my own parents are so adamently trying to say I'm delusional and talking well about these people who are torturing me, just because those people are polite to my parents in the hallways.

Or another question, how much would you say is the price for an "average" apartment in Sofia?

Turning. 28 soon and I feel like for the past year or two men haven't liked me at all.

Like legit no one even notices I exist, men have zero desire in speaking to me. They never hold the door for me anymore, they never let me go in front of them if I only have 1 item and they have 20 in line, they've never gotten up to let me sit on the subway, even if I was in visible discomfort.

I don't know if it's because I moved to eastern Europe or I've just become significantly uglier enough to where I just don't matter anymore to anyone.

I meet men at work sometimes or in person and they've never asked me out, never asked for my number, never been friendly to me. I feel so hideous because it didn't use to be this way

If a guy does "show interest" it's to lead me on and have me as a back up and blow hot and cold, mostly cold the whole time and then ghost me

Basically the issue is that when viewing video replay, you can make it go up to 16x faster.. but there are essentially no other options.

Meaning, there aren't even notifications or event recordings.

Meaning, if you want to find out who keyed your car, you will be potentially watching video footage all day, depending on if you're sure on exactly which day it happened or not.

Soo is there any somewhat feasible way to fix this and how would it work (of course getting new cameras are out of the question for the building)

Recently had to move back to my apartment cause I broke up with my bf. To start MOVING IS IMPOSSIBLE for many reasons, please don't even ask.

Was hoping for a fresh start with the psychopaths who live below me. I did everything possible to gaslight myself into thinking it was all just a big misunderstanding and that there was hope to repair our relations.

Basically the first day, I had ptsd from before. I tried my hardest to tip toe the entire day, and to never walk quickly so that I don't bother them (dress despite hearing them stomping and walking aggressively).

The entire time I am on edge because every time I make the smallest noise they counterattack it, doesn't matter if it's an accident or once per day. So basically my body and mind is always in a state of fight or flight, bracing itself constantly for a reaction.

Even then, I had to listen to them being noisy af. At one point I tried to turn on my tv on THE LOWEST VOLUME and it wasn't in response to anything they did. They immediately but some vibrating device on and it kept buzzing it sounded like a drill but it was just a ceiling vibrator and I recorded it. They stopped since then I think they realized it's too obvious or they could only use the plausible deniability to confuse it with some dude that was renovating for 5 minutes.

After 3 days have passed of living here, I'm realizing there seems to be no winning.

Basically their rules are, that they can make as much noise as they want, but if I make the tiniest noise I will be punished.

Not only that, but they also attack unprovoked. I feel like they are genuinely trying their absolute hardest to get a reaction out of me, it's like their hobby or something. The third day I put my earplugs in, and even when I was COMPLETELY SILENT LYING ON THE COUCH FOR HOURS, they started escalating and they dropped a really heavy object to the point where the whole apartment building vibrated. They also hammer all day at random times including quiet hours but they do it really quietly, to the point where it's legal. Like its enough to drive you literally insane.

They also randomly aggressively stomp and they also do stuff to imitate me. Like if I read something funny and laugh (im not obnoxious) right after they will slam stuff or stomp aggressively. Keep in mind I literally laughed once not like I've been annoying them 24/7.

Now everyone will try to gaslight me but there's a lot more that proves they are doing it on purpose, and I'm NOT delusional or imagining things.

Is there actually nothing I can do? Like I don't even think sueing them would help cause they're not gonna move out.

I just don't get why they're doing it. I'm also worried about them framing me. I feel like most people in the apartment have already turned against me cause I'm the only foreigner who speaks with an accent here.

For example, once I tried going to different floors to see where the sound was coming from, and 2 different people complained immediately and reported me saying I'm "creepy" and "invading their space" and need to stop immediately or they'll call the cops (I was a 26 year old girl at the time)...

They immediately threatened they would have a meeting with me and the property manager and the other 2 people to have a "talk" with me

I just don't know wtf to do anymore and I don't understand why I'm the target of everything

It was worth a pretty penny. Ended stuff by cussing each other out and blocking. Have a spare key to his place he doesn't know about. He isn't currently there. What do

I genuinely feel like no matter what I do, psychopaths can always pretty much immediately defect me as the perfect victim.

I think it's partly because I'm ugly, partly because I'm sensitive, and they can just tell I'm a weak person.

It's making my life a living hell, no matter how hard I try I just can't blend it, I can't force myself to act a certain way, it's exhausting to me

Help..

Landlord is renting out his apartment beside mine.

His tenants are knocking shit against my wall and banging on it.

They can make all the noise they want all day but the moment I turn my tv on minimum volume or clear my throat they start imitating me or knocking on my wall.

Now I don't want to claim all this because they'll just deny it and twist it into me being insane or some bs.

So what should I tell the landlord to get the point across?

This guy basically lead me on, was very flirty and then said we should grab a bite to eat sometime and ghosted me.

We didn't have sex or anything. But I still feel like such a moron.

Like I was looking forward to it.... idk why does everyone hate me

Also when he asked me what I do for a living I told him I haven't been working and just focusing on taking a driving exam and he seemed extremely like.. disappointed by that

And I told him I worked accounting before and he also seemed super unimpressed by it

Idk wtf he expects from me like do I need to be an entrepreneur or rocket scientist to be interesting?

And also like in general I felt like he kept firing off conversation topics really fast as though he got bored quickly or something

I guess he's the type that needs to have very engaging and witty conversation the whole time and can't just enjoy the moment for two seconds

Either way I just feel super pissed off and embarrassed. Also, I feel insecure. I don't have many friends here but honestly after the experiences I've had I'm scared to go out and meet people again.

Not to mention my ex was abusive af and made sure to end things on a super bad note and tell me what a joke I am and how no one will ever put up with me for as long as he did and be as generous as he was (monetarily) and like I don't even know why he said that cause he's the one that broke up with me, it's like he just wanted to stomp me when I'm down

If an apartment has high ceilings and big rooms it gives me anxiety. I'm not sure if it's because I tie it to traumatic experiences of what.

In my big apartment that I rented I felt awful and had anxiety. It also has light colours everywhere.

The little one felt cozier and had darker colours.

Has anyone had a similar experience? I don't know what to do cause I'm stuck in the bigger one until the lease is up