Tit for tat with some forgiving, even more so. I'm attempting the 'forgiving' part.
ilovecheese
joined 2 years ago
I'm prepared to lose contact with people that are problematic or toxic, especially those with the more radical views, but it's not nice to watch someone I've known for many years gradually lose all their friends for similar reasons.
While I do completely agree with all your points, I don't see what I can learn from mocking someones 'wonky lip' or 'saggy eye lids' for example.
And for context, this isn't a new issue, it's been brought up a good few times over the last year or so.
No it's not. It's how to help someone recognize toxic traits and hope they want to stop.
If they were to see that behavior as toxic but wish to continue with it anyway, that's fine. It just won't be around me any more.
Thank you for the excellent response!
The problem seems to be a mental disconnect they just cant overcome.
Immediately after criticizing some racist news story (so not all bad!) they then mocked the reporter or news reader for their appearance.
I pointed out the hypocrisy of that being just the same as how racism starts. I don't think it sunk in in any meaningful way though.
Based on many other things, and that was my first response too, I don't think they are capable of self reflection enough for that to sink in.
Seems to be a worrying trend these days.
I tried that kind of approach yesterday.
Their response was to mock someone else on TV.
I've mentioned it a couple of times now. Last time I told them even if they cant see the issue with it, it bothers me and other people, so cut it out.
The response was something like "yeah other person says that to me too".
That's when I start to wonder why I bothered.
So an amputation heals faster? Fast enough? Must have been some injury!
If I had to guess...