hayyy

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[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

💜 I always intend to do basically that but always end up just grabbing my phone. I feel so disconnected to life that I don’t see what the point getting up out of bed and on my feet is. Directionless. Disconnected from my emotions and terrified of being vulnerable to do so. But hating myself and my life for not.

It’s like everyone else (around me) has a natural drive and I don’t know my place.

I will try harder to just be thanks to your encouragement:)

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Thank you.

I think I was always like this though. Like, how come other people can have technology and be happy n healthy?

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 0 points 1 week ago (6 children)

Because it’s ugly and looks and feels like 💩

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I hate my life (thelemmy.club)
submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by hayyy@thelemmy.club to c/vent@lemmy.world
 

Someone please help me. Im drowning.

I hate my body.

My cousins are here for my brothers birthday tomorrow and they’re all in my sisters room enjoying time together like a normal happy family. And yet again I’m alone feeling like the piece of 💩 of the family.

I wish I actually felt at home with my family like they all do. I just feel miserable all the time and like I should just end it. I’m dependent on my family for a place to stay and I feel like such an outsider. I can’t join in. I’m the joke of the family. Everything is so confusing. And my body feels like shit. I just feel like a ball of poop more than a family member. I wish I could be happy when people are here but it makes me sad because I can’t join in. They think I’m a r*tard.

All I do is doomscroll and bed rot. I don’t even feel alive. I feel like a ghost. I hate the way I look. I just want to feel like I belong in my so called family. Every day is hell.

I wish I felt like I matter.

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I confuzzled because it’s pretty commonly taken for PCOS (which I may or not not have) so I don’t see the big deal. ..

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 2 points 1 week ago

:( now I’m curious

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago

It had Lot to do with my inability to express my needs and concerns effectively. I DO look masc. i won’t go into detail but I do.

I’m sure she was reluctant about it because it’s a bit of a taboo and it’s quite unheard of for cis women under 40-50 to be prescribed hrt. She did say that if I wanted to check my hormones it would have to be done virtually every day for a matter of months or something like that (from fluctuations due to the cycle). So she sounded as though it wasn’t really a thing (?).

Annnd, I’ve also been checking out cis women or AFAB s experience taking what I’ve got so I’ve got a mix of information.

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I can’t see how it will make a difference. Maybe I’m being lazy about it but I just don’t see the point.

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Well I did ask for a hormonal blood test and basically got denied. I did have blood taken though (the gp didn’t fully disclose what for annoyingly) and I got the result last week for low vitamin D. That was it.

I don’t really care to get another blood test at this point. It is what it is…can’t see myself going private either.

And tbh, after doing loads of drugs in my younger days, I feel pretty OK just taking this stuff and seeing how it goes. I’m not that bothered. I made the effort to ask for a hormonal blood test and that failed so whatever basically.

But I appreciate your concern.

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago (7 children)

Isn’t that what everyone on here’s doing?

And my doctor - when I went in asking for a hormonal blood test - gave me a blood test but didn’t tell me exactly what was being tested and I only got told to take vitamin D. That’s what the result was.

I don’t see myself going and asking for another blood test regarding this only to get turned down again. I feel pretty alright just taking what I’ve got and going with it.

About intersex, I meant even if I have it it doesn’t make much difference to what I’m doing, how I feel, my plans to change.

 

About an hour ago I took two pumps of gynokadin dosergiel estradiol (approx 1.5mg I believe?). Will take 1 tablet (100mg) of Spironolactone tomorrow 🙏

Kinda feeling something already but it’s probably just placebo.

[yes, i am a cis woman but I feel (and look😓) like a man basically. I’m 23. Been to the gp and apparentlyyyy I’m only deficient in Vitamin D but Idek what they actually tested me for 🤷‍♀️ (besides that). I was basically told “NO”! to hrt. So since my life and health is awful, I decided to do a little research and got it myself. I am about to ovulate within the next week ish so I probably won’t take that much but we shall see how it goes!] Any advice welcome 🦋

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submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by hayyy@thelemmy.club to c/vent@lemmy.world
 

I’m afraid to be vulnerable. Fully. And that’s messing with my whole nervous system/body. I’m in this survival response and it’s killing me because I feel I need to brace for impact all the time because if I don’t, I will be killed(in my vulnerable soft relaxed state). This is fucking with my hormones and everything. I’m scared. I either kill myself slowly this way by stressing myself out or I let my self feel all the feelings. Even if it means by the time I get to my most “healthy” relaxed state, I’ll die at the hand of another. I keep my guard up but it’s my Achilles heel. I don’t know how I’m going to get through this. I feel unprotected if I let my body truly rest.

Maybe I need to allow myself to be killed at the hands of another in order to reach a new level. Transcend. Be unafraid of death. But it means having to relearn everything.

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago

I didn’t think you were talking about you as a partner for me at all lol. So funny how you had to clarify that twice.

And I get all, but my position still stands. But reading the post again, I guess my initial comment doesn’t really have much to do with it. In the back of my mind I’ll be feeling not-so-special. Best if I stay single until I work on that insecurity properly.

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club -1 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Yhhhh but it’s sorta the same. Like, how many other girls have you used that on? What were their reactions? It just makes me think like that but I have issues…

[–] hayyy@thelemmy.club -1 points 1 week ago (6 children)

I don’t like that though, being on the receiving end. Thinking about how you’ve done this with other girls. Not a good feeling…

 

My grandpa just came in my room. He already saw me this morning…

A few weeks ago he was being aggressive with me and last week I sent him £1000 which he “jokingly” said he wanted and he sent it back.

I feel violated and scared for my life. I wish I could lock the door. But there’s no lock and I need to leave to room to use the bathroom so can’t really block the door too much. I feel like I can’t relax.

I think I’ll send £500 now because I need more privacy. I feel tense.

Apparently he said my sister hasn’t been paying rent but I don’t feel so connected and if paying that means a little extra privacy then good.

I feel like they want me gone and out their house but that’s not happening anytime soon in my state. Everyday feels hellish like one big never ending nightmare.

I feel in danger.

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submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by hayyy@thelemmy.club to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
 

I’m feeling pretty emotional and crap rn. I spent a stupid amount of money among other things… I feel disgusting and ugly.

(Please delete if not allowed)

 

Rn. And sad. I ate the pork :/ i feel weird and shit. I had about 1300 calories. I have a bunch of perishables now…

Why do I always do this? :(. I was feeling good and now that progress is ruined. I want to feel like I can be out in the summer time and not like I need to hide all the time. I want to feel good about my body not like a disgusting freak. I don’t want to keep waiting til next summer next summer one summer. I know I can do this even though it’s hard.

I’ve been lying in my bed this whole time just keeping myself occupied with my phone. I have been feeling like I’ve been going into ketosis and it felt pretty f-ing good. I hate waking up everyday feeling disgusted with myself and ashamed like I have to hide from my own family because I’m so bad.

Fasting feels empathic. The longer I can maintain a fast, the more connected to others and the world I feel and have capacity to be.

I need to stop just going on my phone. I have been resting more.

I’d give the money I have to my family members to look after so I don’t impulse buy but I have in the past and it just doesn’t seem like the best option. I neeed to build proper trust with myself. I feel sooo stupid that I bought all this crap and my sister has seen it. I don’t even want any of it. I just add stupid shit to the cart to handle cravings and now it’s here… I feel weighed down and trapped by it.

I really don’t want to f up another summer.

This consumes my whole life and energy :(

 

One day I’ll be good enough for him. One day he’ll approve of me.

 

I’m about to take some myself in the next couple of weeks and would like to know the changes you’ve experienced upon taking them, what type you take, how long for, when you noticed a difference and what… etc

I have seen people’s posts but want to hear first hand if possible to really get an idea.

Thank you!

 

But I’m alone.

I don’t take it with friends. (It’s really popular where I’m from)

I’m just dissociated. Not got the excuse of k.

It’s not really like I can take something to combat this. That would itself be taboo.

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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by hayyy@thelemmy.club to c/vent@lemmy.world
 

The empty pit inside. I excuse my bad choice because of it. Let me just waste my money and time on things that will go nowhere. Let me have this food addiction since I’m too ugly and miserable to leave the house and you know it. Let me just doom scroll all day even though it’s making me worse, because let’s face it, it’s too late for me to turn things around and be satisfied with myself. I’ve given that role to other people. My sister. She’s the version of me I wish the world could see. The Galinda to my Elphaba.

I feel scared and slightly selfish to let my nervous system properly rest and give it what it needs. That’s a life I don’t know. Too unpredictable. And this is my role anyway.

I’ve got everything I could ever possibly need but a working brain and heart.

Looking back at my life, I cringe and delete everything, wish I didn’t do x or say that. And I eventually do forget and I’ll probably get dementia.

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