OP you are awesome and you've gotta be fuming over all the people in this thread saying a mental disorder causes abuse and doing exactly the mean behaviour you complained about. I say let's get them to say what they mean in direct terms and report them for it. The terrible behaviour in this thread doesn't belong on Beehaw or anywhere else.
exocrinous
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How come OP's talking about NPD, which is a disability, and you're talking about abusers? NPD isn't abuse. Did you reply to the wrong post by mistake?
NPD doesn't cause manipulation. And people with NPD aren't more likely to abuse others.
NPD doesn't cause abusive behaviour. That's a made up stereotype.
Also why are you saying this post is bad because "it's the most NPD post ever"? Do you think people with NPD are bad?
The son scammed her. He told her she needed to disinfect peripherals. The tech is just allowing that to happen and charging a not listening to the tech fee.
Not just any pants, blue jeans! The horror!
I love how the poster is expressing their disapproval of gay people by posting gay porn
Yeah I don't understand how a parent can not think deeply about their relationship with their kids. I don't think there should be such a thing as "thinking too deep" about anything to do with how to raise a kid.
For me it would also be a matter of pride. If I dismissed all these things with the thought they're identical, but I cannot even name them, how can I in good faith claim to know them well enough to make such judgements? I would think myself arrogant and shallow. I'm far too prideful to think myself arrogant, and so I'm too prideful to dismiss something from a place of ignorance. Surely if the kid actually knows the names of the things and I don't, the kid's opinion must hold more weight than mine. I would only attack my loved one's interests from a place of certain understanding. I also can't understand having so little pride as to think as you describe.
There is no amount of exhaustion that could persuade me not to learn the name of my loved one's favourite toy for years on end.
If experiencing the world through fresh eyes isn't one of the main points of having a kid, what are we even doing as a species? How can you not be infected by a little one's curiosity about a changing world and learn along with them? I'm childfree and I still understand that much. How can someone choose to have kids and not want to share their kid's eagerness to learn?
Yes, I've been called a nar*******t and it was deeply offensive. It reminds me of the times I got called a re***d, or a sp**g, or a fa***t, or a tr***y. Half of those other slurs are also spins on the name of a mental disorder.
Marginalised, oppressed people are not responsible for empathising with our oppressors. While doing so can often be helpful to our causes, it should never be considered a requirement, and it should certainly never be called out by majorities demanding that we do it in order to earn respect. It's impossible to dehumanise, attack, and villify someone for how they were born, and then reasonably expect them to be civil, polite, and empathetic. Some of us, like myself, are polite and empathetic, and we do take the time to understand how our oppressors feel. But we are the exception, and there's a very compelling reason why that is.