Just wanted to add:
I know there are more than a few armchair activists around happy to hand out advice. What's happening in the USA has been a kick in the pants for me to get involved and protect my own country's democracy.
We're all in this together. You are not alone.
It's terrible this is happening and the only people who can do anything about is...you. everyday people.
Billionaires have been stacking the deck for decades, keeping you poor and too exhausted to protest to demand better. Fascism has been quietly regaining strength and is now front and centre.
Democrats will not step in and defend you, they're collaborators (except a handful). I think the time for emails and lobbying your rep is quickly passing. I'm afraid you're going to have to take back your country french style, loud and dirty.
You know that feeling when you're watching a horror movie and internally you're just screaming at the protagonist "run!" ?
This is exactly how it feels as a non-american watching everything unfold over there. I really hope it doesn't and the people stand up and protect the vulnerable (read: not white) but yeah....if you could give the German Jews one piece of advice in the 1930s, what would it be?
Been with my partner for 15 years. My top 2 tips would be
Honesty. Build a culture in your relationship where you can speak your truth and so can they. It means creating space where they can be heard and they should do the same for you (if they don't, leave).
make time to 'hangout" together. Doesn't have to be fancy date, just regularly carve out some time to listen to music together, watch a movie and talk about it after, go for a walk...whatever. Connect on stuff that isn't life admin related (bills, kids, chores etc)
100% and I didn't mean to come off as preachy or condescending because, and you said it, it's not helpful.
I suppose it comes from how surreal this all feels; there are Nazis in the Whitehouse and nobody in the establishment appear to be "doing" anything about it except "picking their battles".... That is just so impotent and rational Americans deserve so much better.