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You realize they kept expanding on the comment, right? And doubling down on it?

Well intentioned or not isnt really relevant. I'm not calling them a bad person, I pointed out the problem with what they said, and that the wording wasn't relevant.

When it comes to the ban though, it wouldn't matter anyway. They were in violation of both site-wide and community rules.

There is no other context that matters here. They could be trans and it still wouldn't matter. The comment created an arbitrary (and altogether meaningless) distinction on how to define women, specifically separating trans women from women.

A rule violation on both counts.

So what exactly is your point here?

I understood, I was just pointing out his cultists are not upstanding citizens as we would define them.

You know, with a basic grasp of humanity and the tiniest bit of empathy required to recognize the walking poop bag for what he is.

Can we please just judge people by what they say

That is precisely what I've done. Just because youre unfamiliar with the rhetoric doesnt mean trans folks aren't, since they've seen these same lines of comments again and again and again.... And again, and again, and again.

For you to say I'm applying bad faith here just tells me you aren't actually reading my comments.

Just tested myself, there are definitely ads that show up after a download has been selected and started.

Alabaster maybe?

Oh they have a certain kind of "pride" for sure. Just not the upstanding citizen sort of pride.

You could just not be shitty and it wouldn't be a problem to post on blahaj at all.

Man these times really are a-changing.

I dunno, seems true today too.

Just the positions we thought would be filled with proud and upstanding people are... Not.

Just to mention, your comments (that got you banned) were also deeply flawed logically.

Cis-gendered men and women can be unable to have children. Your statement says that they are not men and are not women by the (incredibly flawed) definition you provided.

I'd also note that the wording of your message was irrelevant, the meaning behind it was straight out of terftown, whether you recognized that then or now, it is what it is.

What you consider yourself and what you've considered in the past is honestly irrelevant to me, and I hope you realize that my comments are not made in anger or frustration, but just as an explanation and a hope that you can do better going forward.

A bit about blahaj:

this is a server that is very protective of our minority members and bigotry of any variety will be squashed with great prejudice.

Embracing inclusion and acceptance means listening when people tell you who they are and what their needs are. It means not telling people that you know their experiences better than they do. It means not gatekeeping experiences of identities of others. It means no bigotry such as racism, sexism, anti LGBT commentary, ableism etc. It means doing your best to ensure that you don’t over-talk the voices of folk who don’t share your privileges.

Now as far as this:

I also recognize that I was on a meme sub and people aren't there to defend their identity with a stranger - there's a time and a place

I would point out two things.

One, that place will never be blahaj.

Two, many will sit in stark disagreement with what you've said - myself included - because no one should ever have to defend their identity from a stranger. Its their identity, not yours, you putting things to a place of their defense means you are already in a position of attacking their identity. You are on the offensive.

Thats never going to fly on blahaj, and I would really recommend you reflect on the meaning behind what you said before even considering messaging ada, or its just going to be a complete waste of time.