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[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Oof the urge can whelm.. stay strong!

Good luck with the business🀞 Maybe the external accountability helps keep the momentum going!

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I've been a little intimidated by Notion due to the sheer customisation potential. However, it does seem to help folks and it'd be a shame not to have at least tried it.

You've nudged a fellow being towards a good habit and for that I thank you.

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago

Haha it was a chore to finish.. the urge started at 4am one night so can't say it was a controlled acceleration either.

Ttrpgs is a fantastic hobby. So jealous. You're working with your hands and collaboratively building with a sense of play.

Can understand things telling pointless.. you're making me question things now.

Ah yeah this constant meandering does flesh out ones personality. Lack of control is frustrating... Comes at a cost but as people said, it's all a matter of limiting the destruction. Keep on trucking fellow traveller. Appreciate you sharing your experience

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Dang.. thank you for sharing. It's really tough when certain interests literally take over your life. The time between fixations of a week feels like you're just getting time to breathe and resurface before getting dragged down again.

It's interesting how you've weaned off gaming as I find myself keep coming back to that rush of dopamine. I just change games if I'm getting bored and it becomes a never ending cycle. There is hope for me! What did you replace it with if I may ask?

Love the idea of nurturing social and outdoor projects. The act of being witnessed by others does help. And you can't go wrong with nature!

That superficial knowledge feels like you're building a big table of contents, good enough to reference just not enough to write the chapters. All depends on your note-taking and documentation I guess.

Maybe a suggestion regarding closure, as it helped me, was fixating on my past behaviours as it's own research. I once spent 2 weeks just listing out my rabbit holes: what sparked it, how much time I spent and what point I went from 100-0. At least for me, I could see that the moment my brain had a clear path ahead and "progressing" on such fixation becomes a matter of just discipline/"putting the hours in", my brain was like 'boooring, let's move on'. Acceleration is easy but maintaining speed is a huge challenge. Controlled deceleration is another lol. Reading other responses here reminded me that the times I felt some closure was when I had made something tangible or have it validated by others, however minimal.

Great to hear you're becoming more aware of yourself and it's trending towards positive. Really do appreciate hearing what has helped you.

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago

Lol interpreting the helpful comments here, all you need to do is take a video of your attempts and keep coming back to it once a month until you become a proper popper-locker!

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Appreciate your response.

That acceptance you have gained is key to managing it.. And the ability to not get too excited and remembering past moments. I like that idea of setting limits on cost, whether money or time.

And yes on reflection it's not a "superpower". I have seen some people around me manage this disorder in a way that avoided this shallow understanding through good note taking and putting the hours in over longer periods of time. Just trying to see what strategies the folks here employ.

Your approach feels to me (correct me if wrong), about cultivating awareness to return to the present without getting too invested. You may have worked on it or it may have come naturally over time. You've reminded me of my lost meditation practice haha. So thank you.

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago

I did read the book a long time back but got daunted by having to break down each project into actionable steps. The moment it went on a to do list, my interest suddenly died.

Maybe that's a good way to limit exposure to new ideas haha.

Glad it was useful for you. Time to dust off the book and give a re-read in the hopes I've matured since my last time.

Thank you.

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (3 children)

I do tend to admonish myself so yes, giving yourself a hard time is not a healthy long term strategy.. need to be kinder to myself..

Having literal buckets is a lovely idea. Visible and easily accessible. I tend to gravitate towards digital rabbit holes which are harder to "complete". Getting your hands dirty with physical objects is a great alternative.

I presume you've built the framework over time to try limit the number of projects you're juggling. Glad you're making the most of it.

Appreciate your response :)

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago

It seems you have a good system to bookmark projects! Love the idea of a wheel, just spin it to pick your next direction. That way you're limiting exposure to new projects while slowly progressing the existing.

Thank you for your response!

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago

That's a fair point. Ye are right.. "superpower" is the wrong term, especially when most people feel the negatives consequences of such a disorder.

Think that term stuck as an attempt at reframing it to try take some control back over this "tendency" to meander. Either fight it or roll with it, nudging it bit by bit and as you say, limiting the damage. Thank you.

 

Undiagnosed here, seeking some inspiration and will to not lose hope.

Had anyone successfully gotten in tune with your ever changing hyper fixations?

  • If so, how long do your fixation periods last?
  • Do you have a structure or benchmark after which you can effectively "close that chapter"?
  • What strategies do you have to nudge yourself towards topics which will be meaningful in the long run?

I tend to go from rabbit hole to rabbit hole but it never feels like I'm in control. These fixations never produce any meaningful outcomes and always have a cost which I pay for by neglecting other aspects of my life.

It is a superpower and a weakness as you all probably know. It's great for expanding your interests and appreciating life through different perspectives. I don't want to lose it and want to get into some harmony with it. Anyone had any success?

Thank you :)

 
[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

It alternatively:

"Give someone an inch and they'll take over your kingdom"

(I know I'm misrepresenting but at least in my experience... it has happened quite a few times)

 
 

Sincerely apologize if this is the wrong place for such a question(/rant).

The context of the question relates to "Self" and maybe about "Power" in general.

I'm assuming the following maxims hold true:

  • Unexamined life not worth living...
  • Philosophy is lived. Choices primarily determine your philosophy

Please to correct my assumptions or reasoning. Can elaborate on above if needed.

I tend to myself in circles regarding the importance of philosophizing and examining my life. Maybe it's a symptom of some mental issue.. With every new idea I learn, I now have to consider it and balance it with all I've learnt in the past. Each choice becomes a battle of value systems and ideas and perspectives and constraints. It's tiring to the point where I try not to think and just "do".

But then that path leads me to an autopilot where my choices fall to my default "human" state overridden by the philosophy modules installed at the time. Then it devolves into the unexamined life. Or then life throws a curveball. I have to snap out of it and need to reassess everything going into the philosophizing state above.

Philosophy feels like an indulgence.

I'm guessing this pendulum is not new. On a global scale, Academia are cutting philosophy department budgets as it's easier to divert money to "actionable" disciplines. No point in "wasting" time in thinking about thinking about doing things. Who needs a meta-compass if we need to walk the distance anyway (even though it helps a tremendous deal if the compass is in the right hands (which hold the power)).

I know I've reduced the argument to 2 buckets. I'm currently trying to consume Zen literature trying to get rid of my buckets and/or/xor trying to bring harmony of various buckets in my life.. (https://tinyurl.com/verse20)

My question is: how do you manage all this philosophizing in your life? How useful is this indulgence?

Happy to accept any books/articles on this. Thank you.

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