aphlamingphoenix

It means if your abuser comes back to you and swears they've changed and they can totally be a part of your life again... You can tell them to fuck off forever because you can't forgive what they did to you. It means not feeling bad about that.

This is essentially what the existing research shows, that transition regret is quite low as compared to regret for other things like medical or cosmetic surgeries, and that most regret concerns how they're perceived and treated in society.

At least part of this is the decentralized/complied nature of a FOSS operating system. You don't get a command called grep because someone making design decisions about a complete system holistically decides that tool should be called grep. You get it because some random programmer in the world needed a way to find patterns in text so they wrote one and that guy called it grep and someone else saw utility in packaging that tool with an OS. It's a patchwork, and things like this are a culture of sorts.

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I'm so glad you linked the Wolf Parade song and not She Drives Me Crazy.

Here's what's really fucked up, though: These cops charged their victim with three felonies (these articles don't say which ones) and later dropped them to two misdemeanors when the video came out, then dropped the charges entirely when it looked like they didn't have a case. None of the cops - including the one who left a domestic violence call to beat a man up for flipping him off as he passed - have been charged with anything. The only charges filed in this case have been bogus ones against the victim of police violence.

Ditto, this and Yakuake, which is great at keeping it out of the way until I need it.

No American presidential candidate ever represents Americans' best interests. It is not possible to vote in your best interests here.

Lol, I've used a web service monitor platform called Wormly before.

And the other side of that token is that people shouldn't have to rely on churches for survival. I'm sure you do good work, and I generally have no grief with (f/ex) the unitarians who also do good community work, but churches (and secular aid orgs, etc.) do not make society on their own and should not take the fall or bear responsibility for the failings of capitalism.

So... My father is a retired cop who used to abuse the shit out of me and my brother. Used to brag at the dinner table about arresting people for a crime he called "POPO" (that's Pissing Off a Police Officer). He simultaneously won't accept that these actions are abuses of his authority and power. He sees himself as a "good cop" among a majority of "good cops". So he doesn't even recognize his abuse as abusive.

So he doesn't understand why I tell his autistic grandsons not to talk to cops. He doesn't get that autistic people have processing delays and may not be able to understand an instruction, especially when it is being shouted at them in a high stress situation. Or that they may not be able to turn an instruction into the correct body movement. Or they may need clarification on the instruction, or like, just not be bossed around in the first place.

He completely flipped out, as a matter of fact, becoming verbally abusive toward me when I supported my decision with some uncomfortable citations (he had the same look on his face as he used to get when he would beat me, which caused some PTSD flare ups over the following months, but he did not strike, probably because he knew I'd have prosecuted his ass). He wound up on some insane rant about Jesus and God and love. Absolute delusional refusal of the notion that someone might not be a bootlicking sycophant for every cop in the universe by default, or that someone might feel uncomfortable around a person with outsized power and influence over them and a gang of others in the same position a radio call away.