alyqz

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[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 19 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Velcro is almost always the way to go with cable management. Zip ties can easily damage the wire and encourage messy wiring since you have to cut and replace every one to change a single wire.

Wire lacing is OK for permanent installations, but good luck changing anything.

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 33 points 3 weeks ago

That psychologist is a transphobe, I wouldn't go back if you can help it. If you can't find someone who is themselves queer, it might be worth trying to find one who practices "trauma informed care" and or treats CPTSD. Trauma informed care focuses on making the client/patient feel safe enough to work on problems; and bigots tend to be less likely to accept trauma from long term abuse/neglect as a legitimate thing, and often reject CPTSD offhandedly.

If you are in the US, there is a directory on Psychology Today that can be helpful, and telehealth may be worth looking into to expand your options. If you do go telehealth, watch out for chains like Better Help who got caught selling medical info.

I've learned in my personal search for a therapist that the first couple of appointments is/should be a sort of interview process where both parties assess if it is a good match. A specific provider could be the best one in the world while being a poor, or even harmful match for you. It they ard a poor match, you can always find another one. At this point I have a list of issues, like chronic suicidality and queer stuff, that I bring up while watching their response so I can guage if we'll get along. Sadly liberals and some leftists tend to be more likely to hide their transphobia/biases, so phrasing, tone, and body language are things worth keeping an eye on until trust is built.

Finding good (for you) mental health providers can be a lot of work, but is worth it.

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 1 month ago

The map would be a bit different for minorities I think.

One for trans people: https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/anti-trans-national-legal-risk-assessment

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)

They taste like reconstituted jerky. Somehow both dripping wet and dry at the same time.

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 2 months ago

I would argue that supporting your partner can be safely classified as "Punk as Fuck".

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 3 months ago

They should have put it on two closely spaced platforms so that it would have also been a spanning tree.

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 11 points 3 months ago

You are right that the US doesn't have a monopoly on this, but they are almost certainly the front runner. There are plenty of European conservatives that donate to these "causes" and we can't forget the Catholic church that has recently compared "gender ideology" to nuclear war. Russia has also been pushing conservative and anti LGBT views, though I'm not sure how much they are involved in Africa. I'm sure there are plenty of others that I'm leaving out.

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 3 months ago

These countries have not had the most reliable reporting on topics like these, so data quality/availability is a likely reason for their absence.

Religious fundamentalism is strongly correlated with anti LGBT sentiment (at least with Abrahamic religions), so it is fair to assume that these countries are probably not very good. It is also worth noting that most of them are like they are due to meddling (or outright coups) by western nations. Iran was fairly progressive for its day before the CIA overthrew their democratically elected government.

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 48 points 3 months ago (6 children)

My guess is the billions that the US has spent to export evangelical bigotry in Africa.

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 4 months ago (2 children)

He is an immigrant so he can't run for president, congress should be an option though.

[–] alyqz@lemmy.sdf.org 18 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

My experience with purity tests is that they typically wielded from a place of privilege, often in such a way as to defend themselves from criticism. I've seen purity tests used to dismiss sexual assault and ignore the lived experiences of marginalized communities.

Reality doesn't fit neatly into boxes like the people who wield purity tests seem to want. Sometimes people don't have the same opportunities to learn and understand. Sometimes you have to work with people who support policies that would see you dead. Not only does perfect not exist, the pursuit of it is one of the biggest barriers to achieving actual meaningful progress.

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