American here, and one who grew up in what is now trump country. Well, I guess I still live in a republican area now, but I started out rural.
Your conclusion about how the society as a whole is sick is 100% spot on.
I don't do much international travel, but I did get to spend a little bit of time in europe in the past couple years. Most of it in scandinavia of all places!
The difference is crazy, even not counting all this recent crazy shit. On the surface things look similar. But being immersed in it let all the little details sink in simultaneously.
There's an air of dignity and respect that I am just not used to in american society. Even just the instances of "we couldn't have that, somebody would immediately ruin it" were constant.
Oh I want those things too. The current size of Lemmy is not my ideal. It's just really really nice in its current form for me as a unique little nerdy place hidden in plain sight from what most of the internet has become.
It was more the juxtaposition of how the world needs all these open technologies that people band together to create for the good of all, buuuuut if nobody notices this particular one then that will serve my personal interests. And to be clear I'm not hoping for that or trying to hold it back. Just pointing it out. :)