Univ3rse

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[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 9 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Where are people getting this idea that there will ever be any type of trails for this? I've even seen some talking about the Hague, which is particularly laughable because the US has an invasion policy specifically regarding the Hague, predating Trump.

[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

While I do have sympathy with your argument, I also have two counter points:

  1. Autism isn't considered "wholesome," it is the subject of mockery and common insult, replacing "retard."

  2. As someone with autism, people with the personality disorders you describe often try to target us for abuse. Fortunately for me, I was raised in an environment that I have a hard shell and fight back, but many aren't so lucky.

[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 5 days ago

Devestating Pyrotechnics... who would have predicted this?

[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 6 points 1 week ago

My base reaction would be that I would not, as I do not have an STI (I test frequently, regardless of sexual activity). I might consider it if I believe we may be exceptionally compatible (emotionally, goals, etc), the type of illness, AND we spend enough time for me to see that they are managing it well enough on their own that I can be confident they are minimizing my risk. While zero risk is not achievable (even in a monogamous relationship with a STI free partner), if they are managing their half of the equation and I'm managing mine, then that shows they are a partner who cares enough to protect me. I know that many with STIs may find that frustrating and view it as part of the stigma they face, but it isn't about them. As an individual with no infections, I'd ideally like to keep it that way.

[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I've been on both sides of this scenario, but I'll explain why I have flaked in the past to maybe help you understand why it could happen.

  1. The individual suddenly becomes impatient/aggressive within the time that was given. Not only is this a big turnoff in general, it is also concerning and leads me to reconsider the safety of the scenario.

  2. The individual communicates well up to the point i confirm the meet. Suddenly, they are taking a significant amount of time to respond, so i assume they are not interested or asleep. I will sometimes wake up to find they were messaging long after we last talked, almost as if they decided to flake, but wanted it to appear as if I did.

  3. Their demeanor completely changed once we agreed to meet. To be clear, I mean they suddenly become very disrespectful and demeaning. I don't know them, so to move to that type of interaction without discussion or prior involvement makes that person unsafe in my opinion.

[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 3 points 4 weeks ago

My preferences are mostly submissive, but the way I mesh with an individual, along with what they desire from me, certainly plays a role.

Partners who state plainly what they enjoy or would like certainly motivate my submissive nature. It is particularly thrilling when you feel comfortable seeking out your partner's pleasure just how they want you to.

[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 10 points 4 weeks ago

It isn't about "allow," but more about "accept." I have had physical and romantic relationships with people that engage in sex work. In my experience, it depends on the level of commitment and the "extent" of their sex work. My feelings aren't meant to condemn them, nor are they reason to condemn me.

To answer your question in the most exact way, I wouldn't inherently have an issue with entering a monogamous relationship with a woman who posts content to onlyfans. If the content was solo and fan interaction was kept digital, I wouldn't find this problematic. However, if the content involved others or meeting fans in person, then I wouldn't be able to accept that within a monogamous dynamic. Given the second scenario, I likely would prefer a platonic relationship overall.

[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 8 months ago

Thank you, I guess learned something new about myself, lol.

[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 2 points 8 months ago

Ah, that explains why I was unsuccessful. Thank you.

[–] Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 3 points 8 months ago

No luck for me, but I'm hoping the second times the charm for you, friend.