TheBluePillock

I can't help with your primary request, but on the chance that you aren't able to find a better solution, it seems worth mentioning that four months is probably too long. I'm not an expert or anything, but I did look into it when I had to take a drug test. If someone has corrections to what I found, I would be interested to hear them because it may not be the last I have to deal with it either.

What I learned is that exact time varies, but two months is on the long end. One month is common. You can even test negative in as little as two weeks, but it requires specific effort and still might not be enough if the test is really strict or sensitive.

There are a lot of tricks for trying to quickly prepare for a drug test, but the most simple and reliable if you aren't on a major time crunch is just fiber and water. Eat lots of greens and stay hydrated. That helps your body naturally get rid of the THC, making 3-4 weeks a more likely time frame.

If he's already suffering through a detox, you can at least shorten that by quite a bit. Also, it will get easier over time. While weed is way less addictive and easier to get off of than a lot of other drugs, it still has side effects like the ones you're describing when you try to quit.

I still hope you find a better doctor, but don't lose hope even if you can't. This is doable and it's not as impossible as it seems. It is bullshit and unfair though. Best of luck to you both.

Full disclosure, I'm not officially diagnosed yet, but hopefully will be within a few weeks.

I stream and, as you'd expect, most of the other streamers I follow and get along with are either openly neurodivergent or I notice the signs. The tags I've seen include Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, Neurodivergent, and task related keywords like Body Doubling. I would also say that the game matters. If you are looking for games you're already into, chances are they probably appeal to other neurodivergent folk as well. But if you're more interested in fun people and good communities regardless of game, the factory games like Factorio and Satisfactory are an obvious gold mine.

I'd rather not post my channel as I'm not trying to advertise and I keep it separate from my other online accounts, but I think the above should dig up plenty. If not, I might be able to give suggestions if I knew more about what you're looking for. It depends on how familiar I am with it. I don't really follow a lot of popular games or streamers.

Psychedelics are pretty unique drugs marred by lots of misinformation and media bias. The relevant bit for this though is that you aren't on them all the time. Habitual users may use them up to once a week, and even that is pushing it over the long term. Many users treat them with deep respect and have a more ritualized usage. For example, instead of getting high every weekend they try to make time once every month or two and it's a very intentional experience with music or nature or both, or whatever else works for them.

So you might be high for 8 hours every month or two. That's a pretty realistic estimate. Yet despite that tiny amount of time spent actually on the drug, people do say it changes their life for the better. It's still not for everybody though. They can be mentally challenging in ways that are difficult to describe, but it's a lot to get into and trying to summarize would not be helpful.

Psychedelics seem amazing. Shrooms have changed my life and I'd love to explore some others if I ever get the opportunity. It's a crime against humanity that they've been so vilified.

Tribute? You steal men's souls, and make them your slaves!

Hearsay af but I have heard of that amount being taken. The dude was never the same again, though. Whether for better or worse is harder to say. He didn't regret it at least, and seemed to be doing well. But he definitely saw some shit.

The advice to socialize offline is good and well meaning, but it's also not what you're asking.

I've found a lot of very positive communities through smaller Twitch streams. I mean like under 50 average viewers tops, usually quite a bit smaller than even that. It's easy if you like gaming, but there are channels for everything. The nice thing is you can just drop into a channel and lurk for a while to get the vibe, then leave if it's not the kind of energy you're looking for.

There are plenty of downsides. Even if it goes well, most of the people you meet will be far away. Parasocial relationships are something to be aware of to make sure you don't fall into that trap, especially if you're lonely. Also, there's good and bad like anywhere else. But, it's also common to hear people in these spaces express gratitude for the support and friendship they've found there that exceeded their expectations.

I don't want to undersell or oversell it, really. It's an option that's easy to try and might work, but be careful like with anything. Making an effort to get out more is good, too, whenever time and energy permit. I don't think offline and online spaces can replace each other - they each excel at different things. I hope you find your community. Or several.

I can't remember the specific examples (surprising nobody), but I have had at least a couple occasions where I found traces of something I'd done that showed me I did actually react that exact same way some while previously and forgot about it entirely. In one case, a friend stopped mid conversation to say, "Wait. Haven't we had this exact conversation before?," and I while it wasn't as concrete as finding my own evidence, I was pretty sure he was right.

It's almost like a coping mechanism, even if I don't do it intentionally. My life is a book, but at any given moment I might not know what happened on the last page or three. So I have to just figure it out and act how I would act even when I'm clueless.

Just to add: education and diagnosis is getting better, but there are still a lot of psychologists and psychiatrists who have little to no education on adult ADHD. They can use the diagnostic criteria meant for children and often get it wrong. You may find a provider who has updated their education, but the best chance of an accurate diagnosis is to look for somebody that specializes in diagnosing adult ADHD specifically. If the diagnosis involves a detailed history and several appointments with multiple tests, that's a good sign. If it's just regular 30-60 minute meetings where you talk and they say you don't have it, get a second opinion from someone who specializes in this.

I get it. I've been down that road within the last couple years after decades of "treatment resistant depression". The treatments aren't pseudoscience, but it might make more sense when you realize it doesn't do anything that can't be done without them. It just accelerates what you can already do with therapy and positive lifestyle changes - provided you do those things. It can also help people with lingering depression whose circumstances have changed for the better. I'm not saying it's impossible for them to help you and anything is worth a shot, but I would emphasize that you get what you put in and if your circumstances are a big contributor (like they are for many of us) it's going to be an uphill battle.

Shrooms have high potential and they're honestly easier to get. But mindset is still important. For some people, it's a one and done cure. For many, they need to re dose every few months. For very few, they convince themselves they've messed it up and make things worse. They hold the potential for radical shifts in perspective like you never imagined, but only if you're ready.

TMS and ketamine work by increasing neuroplasticity. Your provider should tell you: the day of and after treatment, avoid things that are stressful and upsetting. Stay off social media, or make sure the media you do use is a carefully curated feed with positivity and things like cute animal pictures. Unfortunately, in my experience, many providers are not great about giving you this information. They lead you to believe you can just go get drugged up or zapped with magnets and magically get better. It doesn't work like that. It makes your brain more flexible so you can break old thought patterns and develop new ones. If you just feed yourself stress and ragebait during the most critical periods, it is far less likely to help.

Shrooms are different. The mechanisms are less well understood because political fuckery has set research back over half a century, but neuroplasticity is likely only a fraction of it. They also break down barriers, create new associations, suppress the ego, and enhance social connections. It is ... an unforgettable experience. I can't say it's for everybody because mindset is so important. But for anyone who is really ready to take control of their depression, I think shrooms make ketamine seem like a complete waste of time and money.