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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I was wondering when the r/VXJunkies community would start moving over to Lemmy

[–] [email protected] 73 points 2 months ago (4 children)

I'd love to see a flame war between MAGA conservatives and Hexbear tankies. Horseshoe theory manifest.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

I think about this fairly frequently, that in my early teens I exposed myself to some of the worst shit imaginable. I'd say it didn't affect me but then I think back to the video that's still burned in my brain of someone that was skinned alive and I don't feel anything... so maybe it did.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

Normally I'd be 'that guy' to call out ADHD vs NT behaviours but for this - particularly when hyperfocus is involved - there is 100% a difference.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 2 months ago (8 children)

I'd second this as something people don't get about ADHD.

So I work in IT support. If I'm absorbed in something complicated and you ask me to stop immediately to help you with your "more urgent" issue, please don't take it personally if I seem annoyed while my brain short circuits trying to deal with the sudden gear change.

 
 

I also wanted to post this great segment from BBC Breakfast, currently a pinned post on r/ADHDUK.

I found it both extremely validating and upsetting to see the exact anguish on his face that I've been experiencing.

The link should take you to the start of the studio segment (2:18) but the clip that precedes it is also worth your time if you have it.

If anyone in your life wants to know why you're struggling right now, I'm yet to come across a better and more concise resource to express it.

 

that it's like my brain doesn't instinctively understand that no one is experiencing what I'm experiencing; it treats what I see, hear etc along with my internal monologue like a movie that everyone is watching.

 
 

of having so much motivation to set up an ADHD community, then after a while it becomes the newest thing collecting dust in the corner.

 

and stop grinding your damn teeth

 
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Uh... No. This suggests that NTs act like drones, without any thought. Like they're sitting on the sofa, then they just get up, wander to the bathroom, brush their teeth, then get into bed and think "wow how did I get here hahaha what a habit, eh?"

ADHD is many things but it ain't this.

 

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/1551255

When I am cooking, I have trained myself to set a timer for 10 minutes.

My rule for cooking is "don't leave the kitchen", but that isn't realistic. I wander without realizing. It's an issue. I've been in another room and the timer has gone off and I'm like,"Oh fuck!". I completely spaced it.

Anyway, when the timer goes, I set another timer for 10 minutes. Rinse and repeat until the stove is off.

 

Like with other neurodivergent conditions, meeting the expectations of the 'normal world' can be exhausting for ADHD people. Regulating yourself through the eight hour work day can leave your head feeling stuffy and like it's about to burst but there's no shame in taking some time for yourself after the work day.

A lot of us will have spent our lives being told we're "lazy" and "underperforming", so it's hard to shake the feeling that we should always be doing something productive. But "productive" can mean having some downtime if it leads to greater motivation and mental clarity later on.

Of course, this isn't always possible if there are other things involved like family or other work commitments, and it's whatever works best for you. Just don't feel like every moment of your life has to be dedicated to furthering 'the bigger picture'.

Don't be afraid to watch the next episode of your new favourite show or sink another hour into whatever game has you hooked right now. Read another chapter, draw something just for fun - whatever it is that clears your brain fog.

It's important to look after yourself and relaxation is a huge part of that. Different people are wired differently; don't always hold yourself to the standards of the 'always on' crowd if it doesn't work for you.

Have a good week!

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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

It's a hot one out there for a lot of us today so remember to take a water bottle with you, keep drinking and refill it when it's empty. Also avoid staying in direct sunlight for long periods of time wherever possible.

This is especially true if you're taking stimulant medications as these may dehydrate you, making you more susceptible to heat exhaustion and sunburn.

Refill can show you the locations of water fountains where you can refill your bottle for free.

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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

If you keep misplacing something, keep it in a set place or places in each room and discipline yourself in doing so until it becomes habit.

It's usually best to put something in the first place you think of when trying to find it, even if it might look out of place there.

As an extension to this, I've found putting most of my day-to-day things in a bag/backpack etc. helps the most. It's whatever works best for you but I always keep my keys, meds, cards and a USB cable in my bag, and that goes out with me basically everywhere. Just make sure you're not carrying half your life around with you!

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I hope that this can be a positive, safe space for discussion around ADHD in the UK.

Please feel free to get involved. Rant if you must.

Rules can be found in the sidebar.

To get things started I'll occasionally post general tips (I guess the kids would call them "hacks") on dealing with ADHD day-to-day.

A~~n icon and~~ banner will be added at some point.

~~I'll also add some links to other ADHD spaces in the Lemmy-sphere to the sidebar once the influx of new users has settled down and we have more clear-cut communities taking shape.~~

For now, remember to eat and stay hydrated. The doomscrolling can wait!

Update 1: An icon has been added. The banner will be added whenever I'm struck by inspiration. If anyone has any suggestions for it then please DM it to me

Update 2: Made rules less wordy. Added 'Other Communities' and 'Other Resources' to sidebar.

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