Firebirdie713

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I was lucky enough to hear him play this live in Hunter Mountain, NY a few years back. I saw him, Tom Petty (RIP) and Steve Miller Band, all in one weekend, and (imo), Frampton put on the best show. It was a daytime show, it was raining, and he kept playing.

When he got to Black Hole Sun, he opened with a very heartfelt message about looking after each other and ourselves and getting help when we need it. And then, as he started to play and led everyone in singing the lyrics, the clouds split for one shining moment, and we had rain and sunlight pouring down on the whole area surrounding the stage.

One of the most memorable concert moments I have ever experienced. Thank you for sharing this and reminding me of that amazing moment.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (2 children)

As someone who has suffered from night terrors and other disturbingly vivid dreams, I would recommend starting to do "wake checks".

Set an alarm on your phone to go off every few hours at random times during the day. When the alarm goes off, do something that produces a reliable result, like turning a light on/off, turning on a faucet, checking the time on a clock, or pinching yourself. Make your checks as varied as possible, and do them in a different order from day to day, because you don't want the results to become part of a pattern.

Once you are in the habit of doing that, start doing those checks any time something 'out of the norm' happens. What 'out of the norm' means is up to you, but essentially any time you think that something is weird or out of place, do a check. What you are doing is training yourself to check whether you are in reality or not.

Once you start doing that, you will probably continue that habit when you end up in a dream. However, these checks will not produce reliable results when you do them in a dream. Turning on the faucet won't make it give water, the time will change drastically, lights won't turn on when you flip the switch, etc. These are now your cues to see if you are awake or not. If one of these things ever DOES start to give reliable results in a dream, stop using it immediately and substitute a different one.

Once you have a way of determining if you are awake or not, you have a way to wake up. Most people wake up after realizing they are in a dream, and even if you don't, realizing you are dreaming should result in a massive shift in what is happening in the dream.

One warning though: if you have night terrors where you end up paralyzed, you will want to have a contingency plan. My night terrors usually started in a situation where I was unable to move, and that is the main reason I struggled with them for over a decade. The only thing that helped there was meditation where I would focus on "feeling" my fingers and toes and how they moved, and then getting myself in the habit of using that meditation as an anxiety response. Doing that in a dream will usually end up waking me up because it forces my brain to focus and eventually move my body irl.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Assuming that this would cover all past legal names as well (as I have had a grand total of four, different first and last names): still not a lot.

I have changed a lot since I first started posting things on the web, and I am embarrassed about some of the older stuff that I said before I learned more about certain subjects. But (as far as I can remember), the worst comments I ever made were ones in defence of outlawing abortion, and even those I never posted hate in.

So, given that those few comments are vastly outnumbered by my more recent comments explaining why my previous stance was nonsensical, I would probably have to be more afraid of someone threatening me for being a trans person who advocates for bodily autonomy as a basic and inalienable human right.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago

I am short with a somewhat femme figure, sparse but obvious facial hair, a flat chest, and a voice that sounds somewhere between a very gay man, a 13 year old boy, and an older woman. I am very visibly crossing many lines that people look for when trying to figure out how to address someone. Meaning, in a time when attacks on trans people and our rights are very quickly ramping up, I am in more danger of harassment and assault than I have been in the last few years.

As far as who is looking out for me: I am, that is part of my goal, but I also have a husband and a few friends who I can ask for help. However, I am in a slightly better position in life than most trans people in this country, since I live in a blue state that is (probably) unlikely to strip me of my rights. Hence my focus on helping others. There will probably be a lot of people coming here for medical treatment, and I want to make sure I help in any way I can.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 4 months ago (2 children)

As a visibly trans person: survive, and help as many other people survive as I can.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago (4 children)

I would love to, and when I buy a house sometime in the future that is a major consideration for me. Unfortunately, right now I have to live where I can afford to. I have had to move almost every year since graduating college and have never been able to take that into consideration due to finances. Even now, hubby and I will likely be given his parents' current house that is much further away from our friends, and we are taking the opportunity because we can't afford not to.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Having two dinners this year. My mother in law came over on Christmas Day, we had a Field Roast, garlic smashed potatoes, mushroom gravy, brandied cranberry sauce, and boozy nog, with plenty of cookies for dessert. It was a nice time, though a bit bittersweet as this is the first Christmas since my father in law passed.

This Sunday we are having friends over for another dinner, and I am making veggie pot pie, fondant potatoes, green beans in garlic butter, the rest of the cranberries, and ricotta cheesecake for dessert. It won't be a huge crowd, just doing dinner and some board games, so looking forward to that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

If you are like me and looking for nice holiday lights that won't hurt your eyes, check out Technology Connections on YouTube who has tested all the brands and found two that include soft blue lights! I am investing in them soon because I miss having colored lights.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Chalky foods (merengues, smartie candies, antacids, etc). I also hate the sound of chalk being used. It makes my teeth hurt.

Blue LEDs that aren't properly balanced (they give me migraines)

Electricity whining (I can hear this almost anywhere inside)

Dense fleeces (they make me itchy regardless of material)

Turtlenecks (I feel like I am choking)

[–] [email protected] 39 points 4 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

https://edition.cnn.com/2024/12/21/europe/suspect-germany-christmas-market-attack/index.html

Relevant part of the article: "In a now deleted feed on X apparently belonging to Taleb A., he made anti-Islam statements and self-identified as a Saudi dissident. He spoke openly about renouncing his Islamic faith, expressed sympathy for the far-right Alternative for Germany (AfD) party and accused Germany of promoting the Islamization of the country."

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago (3 children)

No, a bigot who followed Afd, Elon Musk, and other racists and spouted a bunch of Islamophobic BS on Twitter and other social media, according to all reliable reporting.

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