FernPlant

joined 3 days ago
[–] FernPlant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

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Thank you, I'll probably hit them up and try going through pictures with them beforehand to see what they think so I'm not awkwardly looking up styles while sitting in the chair. I like the second image btw, I don't know if my hair is the right texture to pull that off. I feel like I'm being pretty unhelpful in asking for help here so I'll just go to them and get their advice, conversations with friends on my appearance just make me anxious which is why I haven't so far.

[–] FernPlant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago

That's fair, I'll definitely try that. I just haven't had any luck looking online for inspiration, all of the images I see when looking up androgynous long hair are either women with not terribly androgynous hair styles or the same exact 3 men with long curly hair that kinda look like Timothee Chalamet. I despise ig with a passion but I'll try checking there for people with the hairstyle I like, and I haven't touched pinterest in years so I might make an account and check there.

[–] FernPlant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I do have a good relationship with my stylist, and I did try to do that last time but it got really awkward and I genuinely didn't know what to ask them for. I kind of just said that I wanted to grow my hair out, wanted the front to be shorter, and wasn't 100% sure beyond that. I'll probably try telling them the stuff I've said in this post next time I go but I just wish I had some sort of clear goal. I look online for inspiration but I've struggled to find images of people that have any kind of longer hairstyle I'd want and have the hair texture for.

[–] FernPlant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago

I previously had a pretty short haircut with the sides and back shaved and have been growing it out from that. I don't mind buns but I honestly don't really enjoy putting my hair behind my ears. I want to keep my front hair relatively short, kind of like a mullet and very much not like super noticeable bangs, but beyond that I don't know

[–] FernPlant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago

I'm not sure what to aim for though or the names of hair styles. There aren't a ton of nonbinary people on tv specifically with long hair, aiming for an androgynous look. I like the idea of it being tied back, maybe braided, with the front not being too short or having obvious bangs, almost like Ed from fma. It's worse now that ai has flooded the internet since not even with an ai block list can I stop duckduckgo from showing some ai people when I look up hairstyles. Also when looking up androgynous long hairstyles I pretty much exclusively get either images of fairly fem women or the same 3 Timothee Chalamet looking men with long curly hair. I think people have been attempting to guess my gender more often since I've begun growing my hair out too which has been making me feel nauseous.

[–] FernPlant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 3 days ago

Congratulations! I hope recovery is quick and easy!

 

For the past few years I've been keeping my hair short but recently I decided to start growing it out. I haven't had actually long hair in years and I completely forgot how much of a pain in the ass growing your hair out is, especially when it's just long enough to get in your way but not long enough to do anything with. All of this isn't even getting into the dysphoria aspect. I just want to have an androgynous hairstyle that's long but I really don't know what to aim for and how to avoid it being too fem/too masc. Does anyone have any tips? Any suggestions for what to tell/show to my friend who's a stylist and cuts my hair? My hair is very straight and kind of a mullet currently. Just at my eyes in the front and down to the base of my neck in the back, the sides go a little past my jaw. I also have an undercut. My goal is to be androgynous and at least try to avoid the constant misgendering I get from trans and cis people alike.