Well damn, I must be getting old, because I'm not picking any of them - they all look like babies to me.
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I started to answer this question, and then I realized I don't really know what you're asking. You ask what I, as a potential answerer, define as "it" (i.e. bdsm), but I'm not sure that leads to a very meaningful answer. What do YOU define as "it"? Are you looking for people who ARE in a scene/lifestyle to share their stories of how they made that happen? Or are you interested in how someone may have introduced one or more BDSM-related practices into a relationship? Are you interested in how someone developed a kink, regardless of how or even if they practice it? That last may be an impossible question to answer.
For myself, I'll just say that I'm a cis-het man who's been submissive as long as I can recall - certainly as long as I've been sexually aware. Literally I remember being 10 years old and lying in bed masturbating to thoughts of a girl in my class holding me down, sitting on my face, and squeezing my balls. HOW did I get into those kinks? I have NO IDEA. They were just always there. Since then I've gotten into several more BDSM-themed kinks, mainly just by seeing them depicted in porn or reading about them in erotic stories. But my wife and I practice very few of them, and I can hardly say I'm in any sort of scene or lifestyle. Still, I would say I'm "into bdsm", but couldn't really tell you how I got there. I'm not sure if this really answers your question.
That sounded like dying cats. Or maybe the wailing of the damned. Jeebus.
I just want to go on record saying I do not like this change, though I do understand the good intention behind it.
It seems there was a simple and elegant solution discussed earlier in this thread - only allow downvotes of you are subscribed to the community where the post is. I know this would need to be implemented by the lemmy devs; is there someplace we can request or vote on such features? A whole tagging system may be nice, but it's overkill for this problem.
Meanwhile, genuine question, how do I hide posts that I have already seen that I would have downvoted? I have already joined a bunch of communities, and I only look at my Subscribed feed. I have lemmy set to not show me posts I've already voted on. Thus, my feed is always kept fresh, and when I log in I just see what's new in those communities to which I've subscribed.
So, now I see a post that I feel doesn't live up to the standards of a particular community. It doesn't break any rules per se, and it's not report-worthy, it's just not a good post. Normally I'd downvote and move on, and I'd never see it again. So now what do I do to ensure I don't see it every time I log in? Lemmy doesn't have a 'hide' or 'mark seen' feature (another good feature we should have), and I don't want to upvote the post because it's a bad post. I also don't want to block the poster, because their next post might be great! What do I do here?
I hate to make this post any longer, but I'll just provide an example. Within the last couple days, I saw the same post uploaded to both gonewild and to adorableporn. I upvoted the gonewild post and downvoted the adorableporn post, because at the end of the day it was a pretty average nude picture, perfectly reasonable for gonewild. But not, IMO, anything that could be called adorable. That, to me, seems like specifically the kind of situation that calls for a 'downvote and move on' response. So now how do I hide that post without blocking that user, who is otherwise posting good content?