DakRalter

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago

Mate, come join us at the @[email protected] group on Mastodon. There are a lot of fellow autists who will be there to lend an ear if you need to vent or need some practical advice. I recommend the autistics.life instance. I have the same issue irl, people will expect me to be there when they need me, but now that I need someone on my side, they'll happily throw me under the bus. You're not alone, even if it's just a few randos online.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

Here in the UK I have never had to file taxes. It's all done as PAYE. Whatever software your employer uses will work out how much you owe via your tax code each pay packet and it's auto deducted. It's only self employed people (maybe other types of earner, I wouldn't know, I'm just a waged employee) who have to submit their tax forms. It's weird other countries aren't doing it this way.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

imitating the Nicole spam, but with Liz as the lettuce chick

I'm sure someone can make a funnier version.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

So basically Pork Markets?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Dew it! The lettuce thing really triggers her, doesn't it!

Phil Moorhouse predicted it might just be a Discord channel, which would be hilarious if it turns out to be true.

Who would actually sign up for a Truss social media site? Apart from people joining just to spam her with lettuce memes. Do it, Liz. We need you to make this site! The future is in the balance and only YOU can save it, Liz, by making a social media site that we definitely won't spam with lettuce memes.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

That. Is. A. Disgrace!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 weeks ago

"Everytime I kidnap and assault an Uyghur woman, I do one push up."

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

I just don't go to family functions!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

more Nicole spam

This was the username (already reported). The Nicole text was part of the image (green text on black) and the message body was the bitcoin IDs. I find targeting the Fediverse for this type of scam to be a bit pointless. I doubt there are many people on here who would fall for this sort of scam. The only advantage I can see to targeting the Fediverse is the inability to restrict private messages.

I got the message a few mins after logging on. Both times on Lemmy, I got the Nicole spam when online (I can't remember if that was the case on Mastodon). I don't know if that's coincidence.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (13 children)

I got one just now as well. I suspect it might even be a different person using the Nicole spam as a cover?

Edit: does anyone know, are there any plans to allow users to disable DMs? It feels like it should be a basic privacy feature and would have stopped all this. Mastodon has the same issue (apparently there's an option to stop non followers DMing you, but I can't find it).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

Those policital parties include the Monster Raving Loony party and the Pastafarians. We have Count Binface or is it Lord Buckethead running for seats. Minority parties rarely get more than a handful of votes, they don't get any seats.

We have FPTP here too, traditionally it's a race between Labour vs Conservative. A few areas tend to vote Lib Dem, and one consitutiency has been Green for a very long time. But generally it's Labour vs Tories. Now with the UK MAGA (the grifter Nigel Farridge, yes I spelt his name like that on purpose) is gaining popularity on the back of the rise of the hard right. The Tories went full hard right in 2019 when Johnson purged the party of any moderates, so only the loons who worshipped at the altar of brexit were allowed to stay. They continued this trajectory which means they're almost defunct, since anyone who's hard/far right will move to Reform (bunch of racist thugs) and the more moderate Tory voters will switch to Lib Dem or just sit it out. Although Labour seems to still be stuck in 2016 and pandering to the Brexiteers, even though polls show a majority for rejoin or at least closer relations with the EU (eg single market/customs union). So it seems if things continue, it'll be Labour vs Reform. They did well in the popular vote, as much as I hate FPTP, I'm glad it kept them from getting more than 4 seats. Interestingly enough, the media really really pushes Reform. They get tons of airtime, so much promotion. The libdems in comparison get barely any, despite having more seats. The Greens have 4 seats and barely get a look in in the media. The media (inc the BBC, Laura Kuensberg especially) is definitely favouring the hard right.

The current leader of the opposition, Kemi Badenoch, is a joke. Just your daily reminder that this woman thinks asylum seekers shouldn't be allowed here because they didn't earn their right to live here.

She only has British citizenship at all because her parents came here from Nigeria just before her mum was due to give birth, booked a private hospital for the birth, then bogged off straight back to Nigeria. That's how she got her British passport. That's how she "earned" her right to be here. Hypocrite POS.

The TLDR channel on YouTube explains a lot of British politics in a quick way for anyone who wants to know more.

 

From https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yDjlRu4CnjI

NomoSapienss: Park Tool company is the father I never had!

ParkTool: We're proud of you, son 💙

 

This time, Jenny is done with his crap and walking away from a toxic relationship.

(Background iimage by DallE 3)

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Anxiety vs Overwhelm (neurodivergentinsights.com)
 

Warning: ranting.

Like many, I was fobbed of with an anxiety disorder NOS diagnosis. I assumed that what I felt was anxiety. Last autumn I got to the top of the waiting list for anxiety therapy.

And it was useless. It got to the point where it felt like the therapist was trying to push low self esteem onto me so she could cure me of it, and thereby cure my anxiety.

I tried to explain to her that my anxiety wasn't based on irrational thoughts, but experience. If I have to go somewhere I'm not familiar with, I will get overloaded with all the new input. I will struggle to process it because I need to be alone to process. The same applies to my feelings. I can't deal with them when I need to, because I can't identify them. So all this makes me scared because I know it will exhaust me or make me shut down. I just see this void when I don't have any reference images. The more I can fill in that picture, the less anxious I feel. Because I can process this in advance (eg using streetview to memorise a route and save landmarks so I can navigate).

No, she says. It's because you have low self esteem. Now write down some bad statements about yourself and say them out loud.

In my quest to educate her, I came across this article and it makes so much sense why CBT wasn't working. The anxiety diagnosis doesn't fit.

Even after asking her to learn about autistic anxiety, she didn't bother. So next session I gave her a printout of that article. Something told me she wouldn't bother to learn anything from it, so I discharged myself.

Is what you're feeling anxiety or overwhelm? Does the anxiety come because you know from your own experience that something will cause you to struggle? Is the feeling more akin to dread?

 

Someone on Mastodon shared this link with me, and I thought you might find it as interesting as I do.

I really hate the misconception of the spectrum. It enables nasty people like Ellen degeneres to justify being a bully (in case you missed it, she tried to get diagnosed autistic. When that didn't work, she said, well it's a spectrum so we're all a little autistic, so I'm not a bully). And enables others to dismiss our struggles, cos hey, we're all on the spectrum!

Back to the article, I feel like I'm a mix of the three examples. I can see some that match from each example. How about you? When I stop feeling so lazy, I might do my own custom one.

 

He is such a chill dude! Can you believe HE wanted MY autograph? I wish I could have thought of more things to ask him about. I'm still a noob at bike mechanics, and a slow learner, but he was so encouraging and kind, and a lot of fun!

He really is a mechanical hero!

 

 

It's bike spokes, I swear.

 

Any recommendations? I don't know if I want to splash out on something expensive. I was thinking of getting some cheap tat to act more as a deterrent, but then I thought, what if I actually need the footage? My commute is pretty short, but the amount of drivers who are happy to risk my life to shave 5 seconds off their journey is a problem.

Would any £5 cheapo camera make drivers think twice before trying to run me into the kerb or am I better off getting a decent quality camera? I'm cool with refurb/second hand.

 

It seems like it might be official, but it's hard to say. The video uploads are the same 360p, so maybe it's just another fan channel.

It does have most of the episodes, as well as many songs!

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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Not his first attempt, but I want to do whatever I can to encourage him to stay on the wagon this time. I don't have any experience of this, so I'd appreciate any tips from those who have been there already.

Edit 02/10: he's still clean!

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