Akuchimoya

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[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 4 points 8 months ago

I think I should choose my words more carefully now that you say that. There is a difference between fault and responsibility, and it's really more a matter of taking responsibility for things that are your responsibility.

So let's say I leave home in a reasonable time to meet someone. However there are a series of car crashes on the way that cause traffic to back up. The accidents did not yet occur when I left my home, so I could not have accounted for them. My lateness is not my fault, because I did not cause the situation nor could I change or avoid it, but it is my responsibility to my (friend, date, boss, whoever) to call them and let them know my new estimated time of arrival. If I don't try to let them know, they have every right to be angry with my for showing up an hour late, even though the lateness is not caused by my action or inaction.

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 22 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

Excuses are "this is why I'm not at fault" and places the blame on someone or something else (including a circumstance). A reason is "this is why it happened" without trying to self-justify. A lot times reasons come across as excuses because the person has not taken responsibility for what they've done.

If a reason doesn't come with ownership of fault, it's an excuse.

Edit: see comment below about fault and responsibility

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 2 points 8 months ago

What I'd love is if her brother showed up with her too. (I love the rel-life connections.)

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Let's be honest, most people who learn Tai chi as an exercise also don't realize that it's joint locks and throws.

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 9 points 9 months ago

I literally did not recognize him, even with the headline. I've only seen fake smiles in pictures, but this looks like a genuine one.

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 5 points 9 months ago (2 children)

The thing that I can't understand about this product is why they didn't cover the function keys. They are literally functional.

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 5 points 9 months ago

Don't take it personally, applying for a job is a game of chance as much as a game of merits. It's simply a numbers game and luck whether your resume even gets looked at in the first place, even if you're résumé how all their keywords. Hundreds, maybe thousands, of other resumes also hit their keywords.

If you're lucky enough to get through the first sifting and get an interview with the hiring person (not an HR screener who doesn't know anything about the job), then you can ask and maybe get a response on how you could have improved. (Don't ask why you weren't hired.)

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 4 points 10 months ago (4 children)

goes by Robert

I'm sorry, I think you just short circuited my brain. JK Rowling, who has so publicly and venomously been anti-trans... has spent the last few years pretending to be a man?????? What in the hypocrisy is wrong with her??!?!

And now that you mention it, I'd read a long time ago, before she became public with her TERF-ness, that she went by "J K" on the HP books instead of Joanne because she or the publishers didn't want to discourage boys from picking up a book written by a woman. And now that I'm typing this, I realize the fact that she wrote her books from a boy's perspective, too. So in all these examples, she's inhabiting a male persona.

My brain... can list these facts, but cannot compute them together.

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 4 points 10 months ago (4 children)

While there must certainly be some devout Muslims who try their best to keep the "rules", as I'd expect in any group, a lot of Muslims are not so different frombthe rest of us non-Muslims.

My coworker is a former Muslim who had to leave his home country due to persecution when he became a Christian. Here, he's made Muslim friends who regularly invite him over for dinner and they serve... Pork. They say because he is not a Muslim, they respect that and don't force him to eat halal. But why does not forcing him to eat halal equate to them eating pork?

They are genuinely his friends, but he is also their "excuse" to break halal.

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

To be serious, yes, absolutely. How many children hear their parents just bark orders at their virtual assistants without a please or thank you, and then do so themselves? I consciously say please and thank you because I want the children around me to learn they should say please and thank you.

And, let's be honest, how many adults get used to just barking orders without a please and thank you and then interact with people that way, too?

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, I was 22 years old when my mother sat me down for "the talk", and even then, it only consisted of "don't go to bed with someone". LITERALLY nothing more than that. I just looked at her cockeyed and told her she was pretty late for this talk. And of course the talk itself was just so sub par.

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