Sleeping with the nanny less than half your age isn't a great start for a discussion of power dynamics in a sexual relationship.
I'm not going to assume anything either way, bo the women deserve to be heard, at the very least.
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Agreed, but in my experience people in their early twenties can be surprisingly experienced and conscious kinksters, able to voice consent and negotiate intense situations. While people in their fourties can be incredibly insecure, unable to communicate their needs and insecurities, while still wanting to play.
It's a matter of experience, self-awareness and skills, and those don't come with age, but with work on yourself and education. We need so much more sex education and communication about these things.
The woman in question doesn't seem to be an experienced kinkster though, and she should totally be heard in any case. But the age argument distracts from the real issues, I believe.
The age matters less than the power-dynamics of her being his nanny.
and only a couple hours after they first met...
You never had sex on the first date?
Sorry, I'm still at the getting a first date stage
Oh. Well keep your chin up things. Confidence and competency are key.
You were supposed to cheer him up, not shatter his dreams twice!
I have no idea if he's a bad guy or wrongfully accused...but these two stories don't sound convincing at all.
Two separate unrelated people.
Both in their twenties
Invites them into second/third base consensual relations and then it turns into rough sex.
I think that it's an absolutely reasonable assumption that he is into younger women and doesn't stop after he gets the green light.
But the article is light on details, and he at least deserves to have his say in court over it.
I think that it's an absolutely reasonable assumption that he is into younger women and doesn't stop after he gets the green light.
Why do you this is an absolutely reasonable assumption?
Into younger women is pretty normal, but raping isn’t normal. Do you mean it’s a reasonable assumption given these accusations?
Not who you replied to, and Gaiman may be innocent, but we should listen and find out. The "absolutely reasonable assumption" is probably based on his age and how he was raised.
I don't know how many men you dealt with that were raised with the mindset of "if she said yes once it means she says yes ALL THE TIME," but some men feel that way. Hell a very famous and still popular movie has "Tell me more. Tell me more. Did she put up a fight?" In the opening of the movie. It seems kind of reasonable to me to assume being raised that "no" is something you have to "fight through" might mess with head.
I'm not trying to justify any actually actions. I'm just saying I would listen to the victims before I dismiss the accusations just because I like the art he makes.
One character saying something in a movie is not the equivalent of anyone being raised this guy. Also the existence of people like that doesn’t make it a reasonable assumption that this is how the guy thinks or behaves.
FFS you're just cherry picking your way through anything anyone says.
Argue anyone's whole comment in context or just go be a fanboy. You don't really mind if you don't like it but you're retorts are weak.
Can someone define rape, cuz I'm genuinely confused. He didn't take their clothes off or force himself on them I gather.
At one point, she alleged that he penetrated her despite her objecting because she was in the midst of a urinary tract infection; the incident left her “screaming” in pain. Gaiman denied K’s allegations and told Tortoise he was “disturbed” by the accusations.
At least read the fucking thing.
I'm not prone to believing things until proven
Knew it.
Did you now?
Sure you did, buddy. Sure you did.