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A community for transfeminine people and experiences.

This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.

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Some helpful links:

The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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Joining an existing group is a mistake (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 3 weeks ago by Phnelope@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Moi! Please read my other posts for some context.

Soo basically I got ignored for trying a Meetup and that's fine, there is a party. The problem is I can't cause I work till night and that was my only chance to get to know them and binding with them. I feel so obsessed over the idea of a irl trans community that alienated my relationship and I really feel like I should leave the idea behind and give up. My days are filled to the brim with negativity and I can't have one day to rest myself without my overthinking issues. Mood: pressured

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[–] crowcore_explorer@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 weeks ago

i understand. i'm someone who is "not a joiner" generally. i feel like whenever i get involved in a group i get sidelined and overlooked. maybe it's a problem to do with me or how i process the world, but i generally just feel disappointed. others seem to make friends much more easily and no amount of putting myself out for others seems to matter.

at the same time, i know my community is out there somewhere so i'm not ready to give up outright. i guess, though it may not be the answer you want, i'm counseling patience. keep looking for opportunities to connect and eventually you will.

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 weeks ago

I have similar feelings about other groups. I think a gravity check makes sense. Is someone in that group actively pulling you in, and making you feel included? There was a group like that which I tried to join via a broad invite for anyone to join, but no one there really liked me or confirmed my schedule. In another group, the leader is literally asking me my schedule, making sure I have the ticket for our event, and helping me plan my travel itinerary to meetup.