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Haven't posted in a while. Trying to be more social but it's hard :( On the bright side I ended up with 4 mg per day of e tablets thanks to your recommendations of going with planned parenthood! :3 Gunna get back to posting every day I have a bunch of fun stuff lol

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[–] cloudskater@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 14 hours ago

Wait... What's the difference between pansexual and just vaguely queer?

[–] GarboDog@lemmy.world 8 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Demisexuals mentioned 🥰 heyyy that’s us! Yippiee yahoo yayy

[–] madmantis24@lemmy.wtf 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[–] GarboDog@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago
[–] sneaky_mustelidae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 1 day ago (1 children)

congrats on your e girl, am happy for you !

well, following the description, this flag is a lot of fucks to give. So many ways to spread luv

[–] energycapsule@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

so many wonderful valid people on this blue dot

and so you are 🩷

[–] gegil@sopuli.xyz 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What is the color for "Fuck me pls :3 🥹"

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I searched 'bottom flag' and for some reason, Indonesia popped up first.

So, I guess 🇮🇩, if we mix the colours it's pink.

[–] Mok98@feddit.it 19 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Does this mean that the polish flag 🇵🇱 is for tops?

[–] gegil@sopuli.xyz 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Mok98@feddit.it 14 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Then Austria 🇦🇹 is for switches(I'm not misusing the term, am I?)

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

Here's an explanation! NSFW obviously.

top - I'll get into you!
bottom - get into me~
switch - both, both is good

dom - I'll decide!
sub - decide for me~
vers - both, both is good

And there's also:

brat - what?! I'm "not" a sub... let me protest!
cat - who's a good sub? i'm a good sub!

sadist - I'll hurt you!
masochist - hurt me ~
sadomasochist - both, both is good

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 20 hours ago

Bottom, sub, masochist

I once dated a guy who was a bratty dommy top sadist with a touch of fey. It was amazing.

[–] flying_wotsit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 21 hours ago

vers and switch should be swapped 🤔

[–] tb_@lemmy.world 1 points 21 hours ago

top - I'll get into you! bottom - get into me~

Not necessarily

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I've never heard of cat in this context before. Also sadomasochist means either, not necessarily both

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Tbh I added cat just as a meme because brat reminds me of Bratty (and by extension, Catty, both from Undertale & Deltarune)

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Ah, I'll eventually play undertale lol

[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What about 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿?

[–] Enkrod@feddit.org 2 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago)
[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Not in Polandball, then it'd be tops. Maybe in !lgballt@lemmy.blahaj.zone ...

[–] gegil@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 day ago

I searched "bottom pride flag", and it gave pansexual, which has a pink stripe, and i think its right.

World will be a better place to live when we all just make love instead of war.

Everyone fucking with everyone else is just my dream world

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Planned parenthood for the win (again!)!

Fuck em all, but differently had me chuckling

Badass smol doctor with glasses and all <3 what a fucking miracle

Is there one for "fuck labels, just communicate if you find someone attractive and be respectful if they say no"

because that's really all it should be, imo

[–] HexesofVexes@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

Asexual: No fucks are given

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Feelin' like this'd work too.

Straight: Fuck the other.
(If ally also: add below)
Queer: Fuck the cistem.

And to add:

Sapphic: Fuck especially women.
Demisexual: Fuck this one later/a bit.


Romantic:
(same but replace fuck with love)

Gender:
(same but replace fuck with I feel like)

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

I find it very telling that I relate very well with Murderbot's disgust with human bodily fluids.

[–] Gladaed@feddit.org 3 points 1 day ago

Straight as fuck that isn't conducive to an open society.

I don't know what else to put there tho. Queer probably just doesn't fit in well with the idea of the meme since it is about identity, not sexuality. Straight as fuck yeah(as in lucked out in the discrimination lottery) might work. Also would contrast nicely to ace coming right after.

[–] reader@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

fuck straight white men especially