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im 19, trading for 8 months. Learned an expensive lesson about greed this week.

I started with intraday trading first. Had a good run for a while, but I wasn’t disciplined about stop losses, and eventually gave a lot of that profit back. Switched to swing trading about 3 months ago, thinking a slower pace would suit me better.

For a while, it worked. I was recovering at a solid pace, felt like I’d actually learned something from the intraday phase.

Then three days ago, one greedy decision wiped out 15% of my capital again. Same mistake, same cycle, just a different strategy this time. No stop loss discipline, held on longer than I should have, convinced myself “it’ll come back.”

It didn’t.

What gets me is that I know the rule. Set a stop loss, respect it, don’t let one trade decide your month. I just didn’t follow my own rule when it actually mattered, again.

I’m not looking for stock tips. I’m trying to understand the psychology side of this, because clearly the technical knowledge isn’t the problem, my execution and discipline is.

For those who’ve traded longer than me, how did you actually fix this in yourself? Was it a system, a rule you forced on yourself, or did something just click after enough losses?

Genuinely trying to learn from this instead of just moving on and repeating it a third time.

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[–] mereo@piefed.ca 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

You're 19, you're still learning. If you truly want to invest long term, invest in ETFs. What you're doing right now is gambling because you want a return on your money ASAP. But it doesn't work like that. It requires patience.

My advice is to forget about trading and invest in a good ETF right now. Learn patience.

[–] vivalapivo@lemmy.today 13 points 1 day ago

Been there. Saw others and myself think exactly this: if only I had more discipline. You think you have a system of rules that crack the stock market. You think that you lose just because you can't follow this system.

That's an illusion of control. You don't have a system of rules, because if you had one, it would've been already exploited by a much more experienced algorithm.

You're biased. Stop gambling

[–] oneser@lemmy.zip 16 points 1 day ago

The click is usually recognising that you're "trading" is not investing, but gambling. Then going and learning what investing is.

[–] Wrufieotnak@feddit.org 9 points 1 day ago

The psychology is that it is literally gambling. It activates the same patterns in our brains. So read up on what makes us gamble and how it can be addicting and how to counter those urges.

[–] amio@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

You're kind of assuming there's some kind of clever strat you can do to generate free money, unfortunately the only real one of those is "have a ridiculous amount of money already". If you actually want the gains you gotta avoid gambling, which trading at this scale is carefully dressed up to pretend it isn't.

Imagine you had a particular "investing" strategy that actually demonstrably worked: people catch on, exploit the same thing you did, and then it'd be useless. Rinse and repeat.