i feel like the hat man solution would work for me...
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Only advice that has ever worked for me is to set micro-goals for the start of tasks.
Like, stupidly easy goals. Got a paper to write? The goal is to open a new document and type 3 words. Need to go work out? Do 1 push up. Need to clean your room? Put one shirt in the laundry hamper, or take 1 dish to the sink.
That's it. Stupidly easy. Not feeling it after that? Cool, you already hit your goal. But momentum is a hell of a thing. The majority of the time, I'll just keep going, precisely because the micro-goals was so easy.
3 words done? Ok that took no time at all. Might as well finish the sentence, maybe even a whole paragraph.
1 push up? I'm already down on the floor, why not do another? Or 10?
I could grab just 1 shirt, or just 1 dish; but I could carry more at the same time. Might as well.
You don't need to trick your brain into doing the whole task, you just need to trick your brain into starting the task. Momentum will take care of the rest. And on the times that it doesn't? Well, again, that's fine. You met your goal already. You don't HAVE to keep going. That can be enough for now.
I use this trick when I have projects in the garage I need to work on. Don't feel like working on it? Well I'll just go stand in the garage for a bit. Next thing I know I've been working on it for three hours and I need to force myself to take a break to go eat.
Same for me, but I'm screwed if I don't have the next goal ready and planned before I finish the current one, because if it's not lined up and ready to go, it's over as soon as it's complete.
Great advice, thanks!
The "give yourself a treat after" type of advice is pretty shit. I know the guy who hands out the treats, and we're on pretty good terms. I'm pretty sure I can get him to give me a treat without doing the task. Heck I'll probably give myself two treats.
Well there problem for many ADHD as explained in the post is that we just don't have the dopamine to even consider starting a task, and a little treat gives us that boost to get going.
For me personally it's often a task that I want to accomplish, I just like can't because brain says no.
The previous works because you're putting yourself in a state of anxiety and creating adrenaline as a result. Your brain can run on adrenaline instead of dopamine, so it does that. If you learn to cope this way you'll be fucked in old age like me though. In addition to adrenaline, you're filling your body with cortisol and that will destroy you from within. Don't do it. Just go get the damn ADHD medication.
So true. I'm like Superman during a crisis, and a slug any other time. I sometimes fall in to the trap of subconsciously manufacturing a crisis just so I can get things done. It's not a great way to live.
Personally, I find that music can help out. Just as long as you don’t have to listen to something with audio, keeping music on keeps that dopamine flowing
Yeah. Take a snack, blink, ate through half a kilo of cookies.
Very rarely regulatory systems are fucked in one way only.
I understand this...a lot. Cookies/chips/snacks etc, they come in single serve containers, it doesn't matter how big the bag/box is.
Tip.
- Buy bag of cookies
- Split cookies into 10 small containers
- Have two(ish) cookies as a reward for completing this task
- Use "whole" containers as a reward for other tasks throughout the week.
I'm sorry.
"The hat man"? What in the sleep paralysis demon is that?
The hat man is a common hallucination of a shadowy man with a wide brim hat experienced in psychosis. I know about it cause it's commonly reported by people who take too much dxm or people on multi-day no-sleep stimulant binges.
It's just a form of pareidolia, your brain just trying to make sense of dark shadows in your room in its forced twilight. It's pretty much a meme.

That's the roach from Mimic.
is knowing about the hatman required for you to see it during psychosis?
I think you end up seeing any vaguely humanoid figure and if you know about it you attribute it to being hat man.
Obviously, the man you imagine pointing a gun at you to get work done.
They didn't teach you this motivational device in school? Clearly, you went to a public school.
I think this is good advice and creating fake urgency is nothing but destructive for many. But then again we're all different and the clock setting techniques may be the perfect fit for many others. The most important thing is that you try things and if you try something that doesn't work, most of the time you can't just try again harder to make it work. That will eventually break you.
No, the important thing is that we never ask ourselves why we have to do all these things we don't want to do.
When I was a kid I had a hard time slanting my cursive writing. My teacher told me to just slant the paper, so I kept turning it more and more until it was fully sideways, still writing upright because I adjusted to the angle. After days of this my teacher cried “Just write angled letters!” and I went “Oh!” and was able to do it perfectly from then on.
Anyway I guess my point is different stuff works for different people.
Did we ever find out why cursive was recommended to be slanted? I'd mostly forgotten that was a thing and now it seems stupid. Probably one person thought it looked better that way and people did it to seem fancy. A lot of grammar "rules" started from one person's preferences so this might've been the same.
Makes it easier for right handed people to write legibly. At least that was the reason we were taught back in the late '80s when I was learning cursive. Doesn't help us lefties since we just smudge the damn writing.
I know if I try to write cursive straight up and down it looks very jagged.
I misread this as erectile dysfunction and was super concerned about the solutions.
An old rancher once told me "Always eat your dessert first", and I've lived by that ever since.
I have a jar of dope and a jar of anime girl thighs. Would one of you science wizards help me turn this into dopamine?
Instructions unclear, am fat now.
Instructions unclear, am high functioning alcoholic/stoner now
Ymmv but for those of you who put your clocks ahead (but automatically adjust the tine in your head), try putting them behind. Knowing it's slow may cause a bit more urgency.
I found that putting them set exactly to the second to the atomic clock forces me to mentally create buffer time and get places on time.
Setting the clocks ahead gave me a mental assumption of “don’t worry you always have extra time !” And I imagine that setting them all behind would similarly lead me to disregard the reality of the clock.
But setting it precisely on time lets me know that this is real, there are no tricks going on, and I alone have to plan for enough time to do stuff or be places
My cortisol gland just started revving up when I read that