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We're supposed to handle them?
NOW! HANDLE IT!!
I write my thoughts on a diary and bike around the city without any destination until I get better.
Focus on a short time frame, one day at a time, possibly just the next short task.
This has helped my too. Just getting through every day hour moment, etc, one at a time.
This is also a reason why big plannings are quite overwhelming and hazardous to me, since my brain works through it all during it.
Oh like being "in the moment" makes it worse do you mean?
No, thats not the issue.
The issue is bottom-up-processing which starts at great detail at the bottom and not at low detail at the top. So basically I am not able to process things roughly but always pull out a huge hierarchy of dependencies (think of a Mindmap) when processing things. This is of course a very intense and draining process and if you go through this multiple times it causes heavy overload.
NT feature top down processing which does not cause this issue but is missing much detail in the process so it has its own disadvantages, but since 99% are NT the agreed upon methods to work through things is the NT way.
So in this context I meant if I am not focusing on just a small part, but want to keep the overview, damages me.
At work (office job), I stop doing anything and everything, go to a quiet room and do breathing exercises, powernap or meditation.
During private time, I stop doing anything and everything, I do breathing exercises, powernap or meditation.
Works half of the time. By works I mean I'm not left paralyzed.
And you?
I'll also just stop and describe what's actually happening in the physical world right now, like say to myself "I'm standing in a parking lot under a tree" or "I'm washing dishes and listening to video game music" you can just keep adding context like "it's a bright day in summer of 2026 in City, Province in the northern hemisphere of the planet Earth."
I find it helps get me out of the tangle of my thought and back into my body in the world, which feels so much simpler than the mental world.
Lately, I just get overwhelmed. If my wife is there, she can run interference for me, unless she's in the same boat. I have to live with my shame and accept that I might need to literally escape.
Diary, box breathing, a fetish in the form of a marble I talk to that i keep in my pocket when I really need it. Yes I know, but it works for me.
Sometimes I'll imagine the situation is like a movie or book, and then I try to act like I imagine a character is "supposed to" if everything is just unfolding in a cliche way. It can help put some distance and give me a kind of script to follow.
Self depreciating, or dark, humor
jk, I just let it pass, if it kills me then...welp ¯\_(ツ)_/¯, if not, then welcome another day of torture, here we goo :D
Poorly /j
Honestly my stress response is largely distraction and dissociation. I'm working on it in therapy 😅
(Really fuckin excited that for the first time in my life I have a really good individual therapist ☺️☺️ I'm really excited about it)
Snuggle my dogs, trying to start meditation, box breathing and the like. Music.